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[animatic]

sriracha john, on 2009-01-31 04:52:45, said:

animatic, on 2009-01-30 22:19:49, said:

yabaaaa, on 2009-01-30 13:21:47, said:

sriracha john, on 2009-01-30 10:41:14, said:

No word if the witnessing wife will be charged as aiding and abetting. Difficult to understand her not reporting his crimes.

Try tell anyone and your'e  dead???

Sure to be the classic beaten wife syndrome, similar to Stockholm.

Yes, that is the likely scenario, but that is nonetheless, difficult to understand.

She was able to comprehend and know how much damage he was inflicting on the student... and likely herself, as well... and yet, made no moves to end it. She witnessed or knew of repeated rapes time after time. Knew of the video and the blackmailing and intimidation associated with it. Likely knew of his highly checkered past and behavior... and yet, not only put up with it resulting in her own destruction, she failed to attempt to end an innocent student's destruction, also.

The human psyche is almost limitless in its possibilities.

Just like drugs can change the brain's neural functioning, like repeated eurphoria receptor over-load,
can dull our responses to typical 'happy making things', abject fear for extended periods can also
burn in it's fight or flight responce till the mind nulls it to a tolerable level.

So the poor terrorized person needs MORE terror just to feel it.
And yet at the same time the practical limits continuous fear imposes on their actions,
changes the levels of what can be ignored. Just because he isn't in the room doesn't mean
that his RETURN wasn't a constant worry, never down time to chill and relax.
Constant fear.

And because the fear never goes away, it embeds a sense of helplessness.
Each little disagreement with the abusers 'will' gets beaten down,
and eventually ALL disagreement to ALL subjects is stifled as a survival mechanism.
Insidious.
The brain shuts out the horror so it can survive. Otherwise madness is probable.
War vets sometimes have similar issues. Shut it out, and never talk about what went on.

A pretty NASTY cycle, that serial abusers, like this sociopath, rely on,
even if they don't know nor care about the mechanism causing it.

I feel as sorry for this wife as the raped woman, she was likely raped for years, not  A year,
so what if it was marriage in name, it would still be rape, since she could NEVER have
consciously, willingly, signed on for this abuse... had she known in advance.

And his successful abuse and control of the wife and likely many others,
yet unheard of, only wetted his appetite for MORE CONTROL.
What better thing to gratify your 'power jones' than a terrified
and cringing woman you have just had your way with...
waiting your leave to be thrown out.
Yes THAT'S POWER... to a sick mind like this.

My sympathies to the wife for sure,
her road back to mental health will be longer,
and maybe unsurmountable.

Edited by animatic, 2009-02-01 23:24:24.

[Sabum]

mc2, on 2009-01-31 20:07:15, said:

Sabum, on 2009-01-31 19:57:32, said:

yabaaaa, on 2009-01-30 13:25:11, said:

Im interested  about this because my  wife  has   a big fear of being raped in Thailand almost as if it happens regularly and she is always careful. I have read there is a stigma  attached to it and the police arent  any help?

Oh my god you didnt just say that did you?  I suggest you listen very closely to your wife, sounds like she is totally aware of the realities of Thailand while you are oblivious.  If you are not taking precautions to protect your wife I feel very sad for her.  Girls are raped ALL THE TIME in this country, but because of the stigma many dont report it and it just keeps going on.  This is a serious problem in this country.  I've reported a rape to the police (not mine), it was a thorough waste of time.

One example: Thai women will not take taxis alone at night, they have heard the hundreds of stories of girls getting raped by taxi drivers.  Its a huge risk.

well woman should be careful and use common sense, especially at night, when alone, and in a bad neighborhood, etc but there is no need to be paranoid, that is unhealthy and breeds all sorts of things. if the woman has a partner he should do his part like collecting her from work, bus stop, etc.

Not being paranoid..... I just have more information than you.

[TAWP]

mc2, on 2009-01-31 20:07:15, said:

well woman should be careful and use common sense, especially at night, when alone, and in a bad neighborhood, etc but there is no need to be paranoid, that is unhealthy and breeds all sorts of things. if the woman has a partner he should do his part like collecting her from work, bus stop, etc.

A note is that those precautions only cover a minority of the cases as the large majority of rape cases are done by someone the victim knows and are familiar with.

[sriracha john]

TAWP, on 2009-02-02 11:18:49, said:

mc2, on 2009-01-31 20:07:15, said:

well woman should be careful and use common sense, especially at night, when alone, and in a bad neighborhood, etc but there is no need to be paranoid, that is unhealthy and breeds all sorts of things. if the woman has a partner he should do his part like collecting her from work, bus stop, etc.

A note is that those precautions only cover a minority of the cases as the large majority of rape cases are done by someone the victim knows and are familiar with.

Indeed, statistically AFAIK, "Uncle Somdet" is the most likely perpetrator.

Edited by sriracha john, 2009-02-02 11:52:23.

[Beacher]

BigSnake, on 2009-01-30 10:02:36, said:

SAD, may him and the wife rot in Jail, no doubt the wife will claim she was a victim also   

Judging by the blatant crimal behaviour of this creep, I don't find it hard to believe that his wife may have been living in fear and was a forced accomplice.