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#1 kohkoh

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Posted 2009-11-20 16:57:21

Hey there everyone
              I need some advice. I want to date with farang guy but really don't know how to do that.I mean I never go to bar and do not have any farang friends.beside, I'm not openly (just a few friends know) anyone can help me? thanks very much.

#2 Ijustwannateach

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Posted 2009-11-20 17:03:09

I would suggest you tell us a few things to help frame the advice you receive.

Have you ever had a Thai boyfriend?  Why are you interested in foreigners?  Do you have any experience in romantic relationships?  Are you happy only to meet foreigners for fun or did you have a more serious relationship in mind?

#3 Scott

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Posted 2009-11-20 20:38:30

As the previous poster said, a little more information.  Are you just curious (sexually) or is it a relationship that you are interested in?  Also, where do you live?  

Oh, and before I forget, welcome to the forum!

#4 StasD

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Posted 2009-11-20 20:55:35

do not believe she knows this site and does not know others like tll and tf. I think she wants to find BF just here. welcome!

#5 malomker

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Posted 2009-11-21 05:52:47

It'll definitely depend upon where you live.  Finding sex is easier than finding a boyfriend.  Gayromeo or another chat site might be a good place to start.

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Posted 2009-11-21 11:41:10

View PostStasD, on 2009-11-20 20:55:35, said:

do not believe she knows this site and does not know others like tll and tf. I think she wants to find BF just here. welcome!


I am guessing, since the OP posted in the Gay forum, its probably not a woman looking for a boyfriend Stas :)

#7 sceadugenga

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Posted 2009-11-21 12:56:49

She'll be in for a surprise if she has got it wrong.

#8 bangsecks

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Posted 2009-11-21 14:17:37

Go to DJ Station or Silom soi 4 and make friends with farang there, that's the place to find it, either that or the internet.  I think if you are Thai then there are some things you need to know about farang and what they expect from a relationship because it's a bit different than what you may expect.  Hopefully that farang will appreciate and be able to anticipate the differences too.

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Posted 2009-11-21 20:37:15

View Postbangsecks, on 2009-11-21 14:17:37, said:

Go to DJ Station or Silom soi 4 and make friends with farang there, that's the place to find it, either that or the internet.  I think if you are Thai then there are some things you need to know about farang and what they expect from a relationship because it's a bit different than what you may expect.  Hopefully that farang will appreciate and be able to anticipate the differences too.

Thank you everyone

                   I'm sorry that I give u all a bit detail. I am Thai, 29 years old.Live in Ladpraod area. never in relationship (with a man) before.I'm working at some publishing company.I'm looking for serious relationship.I like farang because I like western things such as movie, music, culture ect. and farang is kind of my type.(don't know how to explain)
                     the reason that I post this topic because,I thought that I wanna be single forever (I'm sure that I like a man a few year ago but I don't want anyone to know (except my best friend) so I decide to be single) but after I went to Koh Chang I met someone (farang) accidentally.and we spent one day together (he doesn't know I am gay,I guess) after chatting,activities... suddenly I know this is what I've been looking for.
                    
                  All right guys, thanks again for your advice

#10 kohkoh

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Posted 2009-11-21 20:44:20

View Postbangsecks, on 2009-11-21 14:17:37, said:

Go to DJ Station or Silom soi 4 and make friends with farang there, that's the place to find it, either that or the internet.  I think if you are Thai then there are some things you need to know about farang and what they expect from a relationship because it's a bit different than what you may expect.  Hopefully that farang will appreciate and be able to anticipate the differences too.

Thank you everyone

                   I'm sorry that I give u all a bit detail. I am Thai, 29 years old.Live in Ladpraod area. never in relationship (with a man) before.I'm working at some publishing company.I'm looking for serious relationship.I like farang because I like western things such as movie, music, culture ect. and farang is kind of my type.(don't know how to explain)
                     the reason that I post this topic because,I thought that I wanna be single forever (I'm sure that I like a man a few year ago but I don't want anyone to know (except my best friend) so I decide to be single) but after I went to Koh Chang I met someone (farang) accidentally.and we spent one day together (he doesn't know I am gay,I guess) after chatting,activities... suddenly I know this is what I've been looking for.
                    
                  All right guys, thanks again for your advice

#11 Scott

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Posted 2009-11-21 21:26:51

Best of luck to you.  You sound like a nice person and I hope you find what your looking for.

#12 kohkoh

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Posted 2009-11-21 22:15:51

View PostScott, on 2009-11-21 21:26:51, said:

Best of luck to you.  You sound like a nice person and I hope you find what your looking for.

Thank you Scott

#13 bangsecks

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Posted 2009-11-21 23:18:37

I know what you mean by this, up to a few years ago I never really had been with a guy at all except for sexually a few times.  Then when I was in Vietnam I met this guy and we talked a long time an started kind of kissing and stuff, no sex just some intimacy and I knew that that was what I wanted, an Asian guy.  The problem is that there aren't enough Asian guys here where I live.

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Posted 2009-11-22 01:26:42

View Postkohkoh, on 2009-11-21 21:37:15, said:

I like farang because I like western things such as movie, music, culture ect. and farang is kind of my type.(don't know how to explain)
I heard people called "banana" as this type (yellow skin white content). Totally agree with Scott, you sound a nice and sincere guy. Hope your dream come true.

View Postbangsecks, on 2009-11-22 00:18:37, said:

I know what you mean by this, up to a few years ago I never really had been with a guy at all except for sexually a few times.  Then when I was in Vietnam I met this guy and we talked a long time an started kind of kissing and stuff, no sex just some intimacy and I knew that that was what I wanted, an Asian guy.  The problem is that there aren't enough Asian guys here where I live.
Where were you when I went Nevada last 2 summers? :) . Btw, I was about posting some thoughts in your thread about sneaking in booze at some clubs in Thailand. However, there were some similar thoughtful posts from experienced and kind forum patrons so I thought it would be nice to let you decide what would be best for yourself. But believe all comments were meant for your good. And I do think you are a kind person too. Just a bit hype of youth? Have fun but take life serious, bangsecks.

Sorry for a bit off.

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#15 bangsecks

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Posted 2009-11-22 09:27:49

I was either working at my real job or in Thailand the last two summers.  Where did you go in Nevada?  Thanks for the input on the club post, now I have a job though so I will just earn money and drink normally now; three more weeks!

#16 Ijustwannateach

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Posted 2009-11-24 07:12:48

What you are looking for will not be easy and may not fit in with your present lifestyle.  Some things for you to consider:

1.  Most foreigners here are not long-term- they are tourists or temporarily posted workers.
2.  The foreigners who can choose to stay here longer are often much older than you.
3.  Many gay foreigners will not be interested in being 'in the closet' (means being secret about being gay) and will not be interested in helping you remain secret.
4.  If you don't develop some gay Thai friendships you won't have anyone to talk with about your problems (and you will have some) in your own language.
5.  Don't write off your own nationality just yet- try a fling or two with some Thai guys and see if your 'type' can't be stretched a little or a lot.

#17 malomker

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Posted 2009-11-25 04:05:29

View PostIjustwannateach, on 2009-11-23 18:12:48, said:

1.  Most foreigners here are not long-term- they are tourists or temporarily posted workers.

Some very good points.  I'm certainly thankful for Thais that like farang but I'm only in Thailand 2 weeks per year.  That's not a boyfriend, that's companionship and (hopefully) some fun times.

Making friends from all over the world but remaining single is something that a lot of people enjoy, but it is very different than having a boyfriend.  I've had boyfriends over the years and it isn't always as great as it sounds. :)



 


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