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CanadianChicken

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If you are under 40 and not educated you really don't have much to talk about. Some young people are educated and that is fine; some have the education of experience and that is fine but 18 and no education is usually a bore. I'd go to school part time. Maybe you can hook up with some other young people that are trying to better themselves.

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So many mad, retarded people.

Did you bring your parents with you or did they bring you ?

I think he is just on his annual holiday with his parents

Oh...I thought they had moved here.

But, if you are correct then he should get himself to some massage places and make lotsa short term friends...cos before he knows it his holiday will be over and he will have spent it all seeking out real good foreign friends.

I have an idea but...we could all suggest 2 members that we think would make good friends for him and he could pm them. I'll start....TheBlether and Quietman.

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Sorry I was skimming, both my parents acquired jobs here. Im sort of soing a part time thing to get a little side money, though i saved a nice stack before i came here. We will be living in bkk for three to four years. Also i was told by a bar woman that the drinking age was subjective and most bars dont care, she said ill get extorted by police if im found underage however. Im also pretty wide eyed in most cases, even while drinking, i always have an eye out for possible dangers.

Thanks for your concerns and comments,

CC

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come on all.... the reason thaivisa is here is to help facilitate meeting people. it is in place of the community newspapers and bulletin boards that most people i know would use when moving to a new area/country -- what's wrong with asking....

lets say its a troll; even so, maybe some shyer people are reading and want to know... i know i did when i moved over seas and didnt know where to start, was alone except for (ex) husband, out in the boonies (now suburban sprawl)... and no internet. we used english language news papers, ex pat hangouts (coffee houses, here.), checked out university bulletin boards, events, museum/art openings; (i did dog shows actually)...

a word to the OP: meeting some folks in a bar is NOT the way. better thru sports clubs/art clubs/book clubs/ that sort of thing; and friendships take time. also, people that travel around alot, make good friends slower; meeting up for a fishing day and some beers even if its 'old gits' can be good, get some good insights to life, the universe , and everything...

my daughter was in the usa for six months and had a difficult time making good friends and the ones she made werent mainstream americans but immigrants or Native americans (arizona)... relax, develop hobbies, do your own thing, people will find u also.

bina

israel

and if the thread stays nasty it will go byebye...

Thanks!

You could say im just a little nervous right now and the anxiety of the culture shock is really getting too me.

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well CC , i dont live in thailand, but have a thai husband, and the problem of friendships is that, a problem. for him a serious one; slowly we are meeting other thai guys that are living here and not jsut temporary; not everyone from the same country likes everyone...

like i said, my eldest duaghter, english speaker but israeli born was in the states in a community college for specific courses (native american studies) and the only people that invited her to coffee etc were the hispanic and native american (indian) students. she is still in contact with them. on weekends she went to local jewish /israeli familes after refusing invites the first weeks ... but found she was missing the 'togetherness' that we have here. its easier when u are younger. hang otu in a decent park and do some sports workouts; theres all sorts of ways; but mostly, everything takes time. if u play an instrument, go to music stores to see what they have there, may be some thai musicians hanging; if u are in to animals, well cant help u with that in bangkok... as for work, u need visa work permit etc... same as volunteering but can be done...

buy food from the same stalls daily, u will fast find people that will speak with you, explain stuff around u... its a matter of patience and personality...

learn thai as soon as possible; learn to like thai food, eat spicey, ask questions, be curious.... golden oppurtunity to be in a different country, use it.and dont neglect your overseas friends, cause frankly, they will stil lbe your really good friends in times of trouble or severe culture shock. and culture shock goes in waves of ups and downs. just surf them, they improve with time.

bina

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Thanks for the constructive comments. I guess it is time I went exploring, I really want see the palace.

You wouldn't if you'd seen us play lately.

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Treating this as a man's problem, assuming you want suggestions that you can then ridicule in order to consolidate your own plan:

Get your hair cut and get a real job.

Get into a team sport. I'd recommend rugby, personally, as a particularly good sport for establishing friendships if you are quite open-minded about getting a belt in the chops from time to time.

I've never established any real friendships in a pub, except once, where the life and soul of the party, oddly enough, was a teetotaller

treating it as a woman's problem (unlikely, given the predeliction for mauy thai) and assuming you want emotional support

It's difficult. Don't worry about it. These things take time. Don't let things get on top of you. Cheer up. Did you watch Andy Murray winning the US Open. He's a handsome chap.

SC

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what a sad story , may i suggest next time your in the bar try ,

ringing the bell ,a few times.clap2.gif

farangs , will soon find you .

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I thInk bina was being too kind

Reading some of the sophomoric comments I have to agree.

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dam_n boy, you trying to hard.

You are an 18yo, pretty boy, boxer...according to you.

Hanging out in random bars with crusty old guys is no way to spend time in your new city.

18 and finished school limits your future - go back to school - thats where all the other 18 year olds are at.

What secondary english options are there near bangkok? And im not trying hard, at all. You obviously dont like who i am which i retort in saying dont message in my threads.

This is best forum you will find for secondary English!biggrin.pngbiggrin.pngbiggrin.png

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If your new to Thailand I suggest you try to learn the langauge. If you enroll in a language course you may meet other newcomers who have more ambition than the average barstool crowd and who are also looking for friends... Also, look into volunteer work at the mercy center or one of the orphanages. Here you will meet more friendly and extraverted people.

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Just to say that at 18 years of age you are not allowed to frequent bars and purchase alcoholic drinks, so hope you stick to pepsi or similar.

Not being pedantic, just pointing out.

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Oh pleeease, let the boy drink and be mary.

Thailand seems to be a country where you develop more problems than you can solve.

Consider the gay scene, they tend to be a lot more down to earth and liberal.

But do not trust anyone, trust me, especially well meaning expats.

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I thInk bina was being too kind

Reading some of the sophomoric comments I have to agree.

I had to laugh at bina. You can tell she's someone's mom (or else related to my sister thumbsup.gif )

And now I'm going to be the doddering granny as my companion labels me. I am more concerned about your statement;

Im sort of soing a part time thing to get a little side money

Please be careful. Thailand has this thing about work permits and they can be unpredictable on the enforcement.

I suggest you talk the issue over with your 'rents and see about making sure you are legal. It won't take much, especially if they have jobs. They probably have a connection to a lawyer that can make it all legal. The last thing you need is a hassle on your visa, which is what can arise if you are caught working illegally. And yes, web programming is a hot button issue in Thailand as their are alot of underemployed IT people in circulation.

BTW, I still think you should cruise on up to some of the university campuses and walk around. You will bump into some very friendly, normal people. Believe it or not, Thai university students often demonstrate all the wonderful qualities of Thailand; Generosity, friendliness, hospitality, humour and kindness. (Although be careful with some of the science people, they can be downright serious. I know cuz I'm one and I can be a grouch.)

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Look on the bright side. It's a good thing you're born a boy. At least you can play with yourself. rolleyes.gif

Being female doesn't preclude it either. thumbsup.gif

I suspect however, its easier to get others to play with your toys if you're female. :rolleyes:

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Day two I work out, so muay thai and then go out to the bars.

If I wasn't in school, I'd be skateboarding at Esplanade

Anyone I met who admitted to either of these two hobbies, I would go out of my way to avoid, they are usually aggressive and looking for trouble. It may not be true, but it would be a reason to avoid you, and I'm guessing many other people think the same way as me.

<deleted>? Skateboarding is aggressive? Like, no.

It is soothing, relaxing and a way to get yourself some really cool wounds that make girls swoon.

BTW, are you aware that competent skateboarders tend to be quick witted, with good reflexes and sharpspatial abilities? On the contrary, a good skateboarder is often more intellectually capable than the typical couch potao for the simple reason that all circuits have to be on go. Have a look at the typical Thai kid skateboarding. He usually is nicely dressed, has some money, smiles alot, has friends and will help friends and is not threatening in the least. Quite different than the marauding gang of technical students on motorbiles driving about on their quest to kill.

Same in England. The lads who don't skate are usually the ones to avoid after dark. The ones who do skate are often very approachable and are basically just 'normal people'.

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Look on the bright side. It's a good thing you're born a boy. At least you can play with yourself. rolleyes.gif

Being female doesn't preclude it either. thumbsup.gif

I suspect however, its easier to get others to play with your toys if you're female. rolleyes.gif

I can't keep my hands off!

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Day two I work out, so muay thai and then go out to the bars.

If I wasn't in school, I'd be skateboarding at Esplanade

Anyone I met who admitted to either of these two hobbies, I would go out of my way to avoid, they are usually aggressive and looking for trouble. It may not be true, but it would be a reason to avoid you, and I'm guessing many other people think the same way as me.

<deleted>? Skateboarding is aggressive? Like, no.

It is soothing, relaxing and a way to get yourself some really cool wounds that make girls swoon.

BTW, are you aware that competent skateboarders tend to be quick witted, with good reflexes and sharpspatial abilities? On the contrary, a good skateboarder is often more intellectually capable than the typical couch potao for the simple reason that all circuits have to be on go. Have a look at the typical Thai kid skateboarding. He usually is nicely dressed, has some money, smiles alot, has friends and will help friends and is not threatening in the least. Quite different than the marauding gang of technical students on motorbiles driving about on their quest to kill.

Same in England. The lads who don't skate are usually the ones to avoid after dark. The ones who do skate are often very approachable and are basically just 'normal people'.

The ones I try to avoid are the ones that come out with a foul expletive whenever anyone voices an opinion they don't like.

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Swiss1960 (potentially a wife beater)

cheesy.gif definitely (not) interested how you come to that conclusion

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