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manxninja

Married Foreign Husbands Wife Living With Thai Husband

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Firstly how is someone properly married and then only see their wife two or three times a year? I have a niece who behaves herself but I wonder why. She has a French partner who only comes to Thailand once a year.

My wife lives with me in Papua New Guinea because that's where my business is and a wife's place is with her husband. She wouldn't dream of leaving me here by myself and I have no desire to be on my own. That's what I call a regular marriage. We have a house at home and spend two or three months a year in Thailand. As time goes by this will increase but she'll always be with me. We love each other and want to be together.

I personally doubt the 80 to 90% stat. But the fact is that having a "wife" who you see a few times a year is bizarre. More bizarre than the fact that she then has a partner who is actually with her full time. Yeah, she's poor and they take the money and once or twice a year it's a bit silly. But who's the fool?

Tell that to our military guys, if you dare. coffee1.gif

Hardly a fair comparison.

Unless a you are talking about a military man who has ducked off to a foreign country, married a lady and then headed home to only visit her a couple of times a year. Not married a lady from his own country who lives in his home and he goes away to work.

There are lots of O&G workers living in Thailand with a Thai partner. These guys work rotation and are usually in-country only 6 months a year. Can't really "take your wife with you" to the rigs.

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manxninja says in the above post ........"Take my good friend"

Yes...you can normally judge a person by the company he keeps....sounds like a pair of suckers to me coffee1.gif

Just because you have not seen or experienced this does not mean it does not happen. Me tinks you protest too mutt. Denying anecdotal evidence for other TV members and replying with coarse responses says more about you than those drawing attention to this trend. Are you a renowned expert on Thai culture? I think not.

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I wonder how good the husbands are back in the home country? I lived near a Navy base as a young man. It wouldn't be long after the husbands were sent out to sea that the "ComPac" wifes would show up at the bars--- Of course, the guys would come home with tells to tell to the boys over beer.

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If you're an honest guy, please let the gentlemen know what their wives are doing when abroad.Guess you'd be more than happy, when somebody would "open your eyes."

It's pretty much common here. I'd guess 80% of Thai women are doing the same shit.And you won't loose face telling it through let's say your wife.-wai2.gif

After 47 years in Southeast Asia, I can assure you the stupidity involved with the farangs in this situation is rampant. Wives of farangs with local husbands, girls with two or more farangs sending them money every month, wives of farangs who blow all their husband's money on gambling, boyfriends, or family, etc., ad infinitim.

Tell the men, you say? Well, I have lost two good friends following that advice. One died still resenting me, even though he came to realize his 'love' was scamming him. The other still refuses to talk to me. Some people just don't want others knowing anything about their private lives, especially if they are being duped; made the cuckold. Funny, I would like to be told if it were happening to me, which was the reason I told them.

When I moved to Thailand ~10 years ago, a couple farangs tried to give me advice about the girl I decided to "rescue" from the bar. Of course I knew better and this girl was different. I doubt she had a Thai husband on the side, but yet I'm fairly certain she still freelanced while I was away on business trips.

So tens of thousands of dollars later I finally woke up. Had to learn that lesson on my own I guess. I wished I would've learned sooner rather than later though. Could've saved me some cabbage.

It reminds me of that scorpion and frog story where the scorpion begs the frog for a ride over the river. The frog says "don't sting me" Scorpion says "no problem" Once they get to the other side of the river, the scorpion stings the hell out of the frog. The frog says "What the hell? You said you wouldn't do that" The Scorpion says, "What did you expect? I'm a scorpion. It's in my nature"

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If you're an honest guy, please let the gentlemen know what their wives are doing when abroad.Guess you'd be more than happy, when somebody would "open your eyes."

It's pretty much common here. I'd guess 80% of Thai women are doing the same shit.And you won't loose face telling it through let's say your wife.-wai2.gif

After 47 years in Southeast Asia, I can assure you the stupidity involved with the farangs in this situation is rampant. Wives of farangs with local husbands, girls with two or more farangs sending them money every month, wives of farangs who blow all their husband's money on gambling, boyfriends, or family, etc., ad infinitim.

Tell the men, you say? Well, I have lost two good friends following that advice. One died still resenting me, even though he came to realize his 'love' was scamming him. The other still refuses to talk to me. Some people just don't want others knowing anything about their private lives, especially if they are being duped; made the cuckold. Funny, I would like to be told if it were happening to me, which was the reason I told them.

When I moved to Thailand ~10 years ago, a couple farangs tried to give me advice about the girl I decided to "rescue" from the bar. Of course I knew better and this girl was different. I doubt she had a Thai husband on the side, but yet I'm fairly certain she still freelanced while I was away on business trips.

So tens of thousands of dollars later I finally woke up. Had to learn that lesson on my own I guess. I wished I would've learned sooner rather than later though. Could've saved me some cabbage.

It reminds me of that scorpion and frog story where the scorpion begs the frog for a ride over the river. The frog says "don't sting me" Scorpion says "no problem" Once they get to the other side of the river, the scorpion stings the hell out of the frog. The frog says "What the hell? You said you wouldn't do that" The Scorpion says, "What did you expect? I'm a scorpion. It's in my nature"

Well half correct, I see a lot of willing frogs, but not many who have the abiity to get to the other side.......smile.png

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Many farang husbands live in-denial (No African jokes please). They have a better and warmer life in LOS and are happy to turn a blind eye if someone gives them news that they do not want to hear for fear it might stop THIER fun.

I know this because I was one of them and I lost a good friend because of it.

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manxninja says in the above post ........"Take my good friend"

Yes...you can normally judge a person by the company he keeps....sounds like a pair of suckers to me coffee1.gif

Just because you have not seen or experienced this does not mean it does not happen. Me tinks you protest too mutt. Denying anecdotal evidence for other TV members and replying with coarse responses says more about you than those drawing attention to this trend. Are you a renowned expert on Thai culture? I think not.

Who said I haven't seen it,of course I have but to be honest what idiot would come to Isaan,build a great big house,put a new car in his wife's name along with a motorbike..........maybe even a small Business as well so he doesn't have to pay any Tax.

These guys deserve to be had over,surely its well reported in every bar and forum you go on............but still guys come and do the same thing and then blame everybody apart from themselves

I'm lucky ,my marriage has lasted 9+ years and I'm not denying there have been some problems on the way but that's life.I have always said and I will say it again "never invest more in Thailand than your not prepared to walk away from ".I built our small 127 squ/m 2 bedroomed house about 9 years ago for 1mill ,I reckon in about another 6 years it would have paid for its self compared to renting.I'm also lucky that I met someone who is quite genuine but if it did go tits-up I wouldn't be crying about it and whining like some have on here,maybe when some say "this happened to a friend of mine " they are talking about themselves,why else would they be so bitter and twisted !!! rolleyes.gif

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How Guys lose it all in Thailand.

Very sorry story that one and obviously sponsored by Chang Beer.

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After reading this thread and with all the expert comments on Thai Wives my eye's have been finally opened.

Only last week my wife went out for 4 hour alone to see a friend.........How could I have be so stupid not to realise she was not seeing a friend but was getting rodgered senseless by some young Thai stud from the next Village.....you guys really know what you are talking about when you post all these true stories about very bad Thai women

Thanks again Guys...........I'm packing my bags after what seemed like 9 years of a very good marriage,If only I had know that her weekly trip into town to buy essential household items was just a ruse to have wild abandon sex.

I'm now going back to the UK heartbroken......... poorer but wiser

Thanks guys

Boloa

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If your experience is true and you are sure, then my heart is with you, sadly.

Well I'm not 100% sure ..........but sirchai said 80% of women ( one guy even put it as high as 90% ) are getting extramarital Thai Sausage ,so why should my wife be any different sad.png .......after all you lot are the experts blink.png

Jay jenn, jenn......Wasn't it about foreigners who're living here for only two or three months and spent the rest of the year somewhere to make money, etc..?--w00t.gif

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Bola the man who built a house for his thai wife in the middle of no-where and financially supports the thai familly mocking other people.

Classic a true example of how not to do it.

I bet he met her in bangkok and she was a tourist guide. The delusional ones have lost the lot in my experience.

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If you're an honest guy, please let the gentlemen know what their wives are doing when abroad.Guess you'd be more than happy, when somebody would "open your eyes."

It's pretty much common here. I'd guess 80% of Thai women are doing the same shit.And you won't loose face telling it through let's say your wife.-wai2.gif

After 47 years in Southeast Asia, I can assure you the stupidity involved with the farangs in this situation is rampant. Wives of farangs with local husbands, girls with two or more farangs sending them money every month, wives of farangs who blow all their husband's money on gambling, boyfriends, or family, etc., ad infinitim.

Tell the men, you say? Well, I have lost two good friends following that advice. One died still resenting me, even though he came to realize his 'love' was scamming him. The other still refuses to talk to me. Some people just don't want others knowing anything about their private lives, especially if they are being duped; made the cuckold. Funny, I would like to be told if it were happening to me, which was the reason I told them.

When I moved to Thailand ~10 years ago, a couple farangs tried to give me advice about the girl I decided to "rescue" from the bar. Of course I knew better and this girl was different. I doubt she had a Thai husband on the side, but yet I'm fairly certain she still freelanced while I was away on business trips.

So tens of thousands of dollars later I finally woke up. Had to learn that lesson on my own I guess. I wished I would've learned sooner rather than later though. Could've saved me some cabbage.

It reminds me of that scorpion and frog story where the scorpion begs the frog for a ride over the river. The frog says "don't sting me" Scorpion says "no problem" Once they get to the other side of the river, the scorpion stings the hell out of the frog. The frog says "What the hell? You said you wouldn't do that" The Scorpion says, "What did you expect? I'm a scorpion. It's in my nature"

But it's also in a frog's nature, that they wouldn't carry a scorpion.-w00t.gif

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ID: 90   Posted · Hidden by metisdead, May 27, 2013 - off topic

Hardly a fair comparison.

My wife lives with me in Papua New Guinea because that's where my business is and a wife's place is with her husband. She wouldn't dream of leaving me here by myself and I have no desire to be on my own. That's what I call a regular marriage. We have a house at home and spend two or three months a year in Thailand. As time goes by this will increase but she'll always be with me. We love each other and want to be together.

I personally doubt the 80 to 90% stat. But the fact is that having a "wife" who you see a few times a year is bizarre. More bizarre than the fact that she then has a partner who is actually with her full time. Yeah, she's poor and they take the money and once or twice a year it's a bit silly. But who's the fool?

Unless a you are talking about a military man who has ducked off to a foreign country, married a lady and then headed home to only visit her a couple of times a year. Not married a lady from his own country who lives in his home and he goes away to work.

Sadly you miss my point regarding your post. A navy guy can be away most of a year, soldiers go for six month tours, and guess what, many are married. rolleyes.gif My dad was away for three years. coffee1.gif

I have to make it clear that my post was in no way intended to cast aspersions on the military. I have enormous respect for members of the armed forces who (apart from enforced separations form their families) put themselves in harm's way for the rest of us.

I do see your point that they are away from their wives (and kids) for extended periods of time. I don't see it as being the equivalent of the point in hand however. The vast majority of your cases would be Americans (sorry if I assume incorrectly but your ndp seems to indicate US) married to Americans who are going away to leave their spouse in the country that is home for them both ...

Of course military personell only marries saints and angels. That must be the reason why they have such a low divorse rate.

And putting themselves in harm's way for the rest of us...brainwashed bullshit. Not one country in the world is able to invate USA. Reason for troops overseas is to keep corporate america strong and unite unhappy,broke nation against common foreign enemies.

I dont know where posters live but even 50% seems pretty high.

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Sensible input Bola. Im sure your wife is etearnally greatfull that you saved her from the humidity in soi 6.

What a fool you are ...........

not only is your spelling terrible but it was a BJ Bar in Soi Post Office laugh.pnglaugh.pnglaugh.png

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I've been called a fool and an idiot and then some on ThaiVisa. I've also been called much the same on places where it actually mattered. But even then, I get over it.

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It's very widespread, not only with foreigners here part-time.

The wife of full time foreigners can have a Thai husband tucked away, she visits when, funeral, go to see relatives, little holiday with her sister, etc.

If you're an honest guy, please let the gentlemen know what their wives are doing when abroad.Guess you'd be more than happy, when somebody would "open your eyes."

It's pretty much common here. I'd guess 80% of Thai women are doing the same shit.And you won't loose face telling it through let's say your wife.-wai2.gif

Two sides to every story. My wife visits her home village often and likes to help at local temples, meaning she does spend nights away from home.

So, when I read this conversation I spoke to her about it and her response was that any 'doubting thomas' should confront any such woman in person. YES, tell the foreign husband - or even better take a photo of the loving couple and drop it in the mail.

AND, yes, I have seen this, but Thais do it to Thais as often as with foreigners. The Mia Noi of a wealthy Thai often has a boyfriend on the side.

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Bola the man who built a house for his thai wife in the middle of no-where and financially supports the thai familly mocking other people.

Classic a true example of how not to do it.

I bet he met her in bangkok and she was a tourist guide. The delusional ones have lost the lot in my experience.

I think your just jealous of the guys that are living here and are quite happy....The facts are I have a falling out with the In-laws and the wife took my side and didn't speak to here family for 3 years,and they live next door......when a lady does that for you ,you know you have found the right one.

BTW..I could give a dame about your sick jibes about my wife.........they say more about you than they do about me biggrin.png

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It's very widespread, not only with foreigners here part-time.

The wife of full time foreigners can have a Thai husband tucked away, she visits when, funeral, go to see relatives, little holiday with her sister, etc.

>If you're an honest guy, please let the gentlemen know what their wives are doing when abroad.Guess you'd be more than happy, when somebody would "open your eyes."

It's pretty much common here. I'd guess 80% of Thai women are doing the same shit.And you won't loose face telling it through let's say your wife.-wai2.gif

Two sides to every story. My wife visits her home village often and likes to help at local temples, meaning she does spend nights away from home.

So, when I read this conversation I spoke to her about it and her response was that any 'doubting thomas' should confront any such woman in person. YES, tell the foreign husband - or even better take a photo of the loving couple and drop it in the mail.

AND, yes, I have seen this, but Thais do it to Thais as often as with foreigners. The Mia Noi of a wealthy Thai often has a boyfriend on the side.

When she spends the night away, you never question or confront.

You just turn up once or twice where she is supposed to be staying, late at night.

"Surprise darling, I missed you so much, I just had to come".

How easy is that, how daft would you be not to do it (randomly and without warning).

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Is there an age defined rule here to help us calculate the probability of unfaithfulness in Thailand , I would like to ask the posters ? Like , take half your age , then times it by the number of things you couldn't legally own in Thailand but you have paid for , then add on to that the hours your partner/wife/gf spends at the market without you in a day( or dancing the night away ) and then minus your wifes age .

Oh <deleted> I got -12 .

edit - It would be 466 .

edit - I mean 14 .

edit - Yes , and I think that's pretty good .

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Is there an age defined rule here to help us calculate the probability of unfaithfulness in Thailand , I would like to ask the posters ? Like , take half your age , then times it by the number of things you couldn't legally own in Thailand but you have paid for , then add on to that the hours your partner/wife/gf spends at the market without you in a day( or dancing the night away ) and then minus your wifes age .

Oh <deleted> I got -12 .

I think the rule is, if you give them the opportunity, they will most likely take it.

Applies to men and women, after all, Thailand is the country (dare I say hub) of fooling around.

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I think you'll get the woman you deserve in most cases, but you'll have a disadvantage if you don't live with her! wink.png

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It's very widespread, not only with foreigners here part-time.

The wife of full time foreigners can have a Thai husband tucked away, she visits when, funeral, go to see relatives, little holiday with her sister, etc.

>If you're an honest guy, please let the gentlemen know what their wives are doing when abroad.Guess you'd be more than happy, when somebody would "open your eyes."

It's pretty much common here. I'd guess 80% of Thai women are doing the same shit.And you won't loose face telling it through let's say your wife.-wai2.gif

Two sides to every story. My wife visits her home village often and likes to help at local temples, meaning she does spend nights away from home.

So, when I read this conversation I spoke to her about it and her response was that any 'doubting thomas' should confront any such woman in person. YES, tell the foreign husband - or even better take a photo of the loving couple and drop it in the mail.

AND, yes, I have seen this, but Thais do it to Thais as often as with foreigners. The Mia Noi of a wealthy Thai often has a boyfriend on the side.

When she spends the night away, you never question or confront.

You just turn up once or twice where she is supposed to be staying, late at night.

"Surprise darling, I missed you so much, I just had to come".

How easy is that, how daft would you be not to do it (randomly and without warning).

Wow, that is some twisted advice! But I suppose if you have been burned numerous times it would be hard to trust anyone.

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If you had an argument with your wifes parents and she took your side, yes it does say alot about her. Quite bizarre behaviour to anyone that know thai culture well.

Im glad for the people its worked out for, not jealous.

But you sound like your having a right miserable time in the house you will never own, surrounded by thais that dont like or respect you.

Chok dee bola you will need it.

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