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#26 Somtamnication

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Posted 2013-12-13 07:17:51

Sounds like she found the wrong match. I would tell her to run away from you as fast and as far away as possible.

 

She deserves someone who respects her shyness and who has a higher moral compass. Just sayin'......



#27 JoeThePoster

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Posted 2013-12-13 07:32:11

Does she talk much? If not she may be trying to hide her husky voice.

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Posted 2013-12-13 07:37:13

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Thai Visa forum....I can't think of a better place to seek advice regarding a virginal school girl



#29 Water Buffalo

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Posted 2013-12-13 07:39:10

Use your hand until she's ready or go find a twenty year-old slut if that please you.

 

By the way,  i study at university here and quite a few of my Thai female friends are virgins.  Is your girlfriend a virgin?  It would explain all of this.


Edited by Water Buffalo, 2013-12-13 07:39:56.


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Posted 2013-12-13 07:41:36

Use your hand until she's ready or go find a twenty year-old slut if that please you.
 
By the way,  i study at university here and quite a few of my Thai female friends are virgins.  Is your girlfriend a virgin?  It would explain all of this.

What is a virginity test ?

Should he put her in a bath and see if bubbles come up?

Also, does sexually active means "slut"? How old are you again?

Edited by lemoncake, 2013-12-13 07:43:01.


#31 zeichen

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Posted 2013-12-13 07:48:38

I am really surprised how archaic most posters seem to be.  OP just move on. You sound like a typical guy who wants one thing from relationship. Fortunately there are many girls that want the same thing in Thailand. However there are still many more old fashioned one's that expect to have a solid relationship before getting intimate. Unless you are ready to commit to her then why push the issue.

 

I know of many young women here that are really old fashioned and wouldn't even kiss unless they were in love and knew their partner was equally committed. Also many young girls don't want to sacrifice their education and career for a relationship.

 

She might also be testing you to see how much you are willing to wait to prove that she is worth the effort.

 

If you do take it to the next level and break up with her, you might ruin it for the next guy who truly does love her.

 

I wonder if the posters here would make these same comments to guys trying to make it with their daughters? 



#32 lemoncake

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Posted 2013-12-13 07:59:50

I am really surprised how archaic most posters seem to be.  OP just move on. You sound like a typical guy who wants one thing from relationship. Fortunately there are many girls that want the same thing in Thailand. However there are still many more old fashioned one's that expect to have a solid relationship before getting intimate. Unless you are ready to commit to her then why push the issue.

 

I know of many young women here that are really old fashioned and wouldn't even kiss unless they were in love and knew their partner was equally committed. Also many young girls don't want to sacrifice their education and career for a relationship.

 

She might also be testing you to see how much you are willing to wait to prove that she is worth the effort.

 

If you do take it to the next level and break up with her, you might ruin it for the next guy who truly does love her.

 

I wonder if the posters here would make these same comments to guys trying to make it with their daughters? 

By old fashioned, do you mean frigid?

 

You do realize its almost year 2014, do not you? and a very large number have kids by the age of 16 not to mention become sexually active by the age of 13 if not younger.



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Posted 2013-12-13 08:19:20

 

Use your hand until she's ready or go find a twenty year-old slut if that please you.
 
By the way,  i study at university here and quite a few of my Thai female friends are virgins.  Is your girlfriend a virgin?  It would explain all of this.

What is a virginity test ?

Should he put her in a bath and see if bubbles come up?

Also, does sexually active means "slut"? How old are you again?

 

 

 

Ask her.

 

I have met a lot of ladies who were easy to get into bed after "a couple of dates" - and they were ALL sluts.  (in my opinion).   I'm not condemning it, but the OP seems to be looking for a different type of girl than he has)

 

 

 

I am really surprised how archaic most posters seem to be.  OP just move on. You sound like a typical guy who wants one thing from relationship. Fortunately there are many girls that want the same thing in Thailand. However there are still many more old fashioned one's that expect to have a solid relationship before getting intimate. Unless you are ready to commit to her then why push the issue.

 

I know of many young women here that are really old fashioned and wouldn't even kiss unless they were in love and knew their partner was equally committed. Also many young girls don't want to sacrifice their education and career for a relationship.

 

She might also be testing you to see how much you are willing to wait to prove that she is worth the effort.

 

If you do take it to the next level and break up with her, you might ruin it for the next guy who truly does love her.

 

I wonder if the posters here would make these same comments to guys trying to make it with their daughters? 

By old fashioned, do you mean frigid?

 

You do realize its almost year 2014, do not you? and a very large number have kids by the age of 16 not to mention become sexually active by the age of 13 if not younger.

 

 

Teenage pregnancy is not really a good thing and by stating that it is getting more common doesn't justify it.

 

The OP's girlfriend is an adult.  Why are you talking about minors?


Edited by Water Buffalo, 2013-12-13 08:20:21.


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Posted 2013-12-13 08:19:37

 

I am really surprised how archaic most posters seem to be.  OP just move on. You sound like a typical guy who wants one thing from relationship. Fortunately there are many girls that want the same thing in Thailand. However there are still many more old fashioned one's that expect to have a solid relationship before getting intimate. Unless you are ready to commit to her then why push the issue.

 

I know of many young women here that are really old fashioned and wouldn't even kiss unless they were in love and knew their partner was equally committed. Also many young girls don't want to sacrifice their education and career for a relationship.

 

She might also be testing you to see how much you are willing to wait to prove that she is worth the effort.

 

If you do take it to the next level and break up with her, you might ruin it for the next guy who truly does love her.

 

I wonder if the posters here would make these same comments to guys trying to make it with their daughters? 

By old fashioned, do you mean frigid?

 

You do realize its almost year 2014, do not you? and a very large number have kids by the age of 16 not to mention become sexually active by the age of 13 if not younger.

 

 

Combining the kids at 13 and the Uni must be difficult.



#35 jackr

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Posted 2013-12-13 08:20:00

Get a bit on the side until she's ready for a knee-trembler. ;-)



#36 n0mad

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Posted 2013-12-13 08:25:55

i was in similar situation to you, i don't remember how long it took me to kiss her but i literally stole it from her 1 day in my home. Just a peck on the lips and after that the ice was broken and we slowly progressed further.

 

Overall, we discussed it which was important and we decided to travel to Phuket where it was planned we would have sex for the first time, that was after 6 months of being together.

 

the important way to progress things is to talk openly with her, mine was originally wanting to wait till marriage but after regularly talking and fooling around she moved on from that ideal.

 

i'm now married to this girl and things are great.



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Posted 2013-12-13 08:28:43

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Ask her.
 
I have met a lot of ladies who were easy to get into bed after "a couple of dates" - and they were ALL sluts.  (in my opinion).   I'm not condemning it, but the OP seems to be looking for a different type of girl than he has)
 
 

Teenage pregnancy is not really a good thing and by stating that it is getting more common doesn't justify it.
 
The OP's girlfriend is an adult.  Why are you talking about minors?

 
Do you really not get it?
 
If they become sexually active by the age of 13, they surely are not virgins by the age of 20 
 
Getting into bed after a couple of dates is a "slut" in your book? again, how old are you? and what middle eastern country do you come from?

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Posted 2013-12-13 08:29:29

but you sounds like 20 too , so its a good match



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Posted 2013-12-13 08:30:08

I am really surprised how archaic most posters seem to be.  OP just move on. You sound like a typical guy who wants one thing from relationship. Fortunately there are many girls that want the same thing in Thailand. However there are still many more old fashioned one's that expect to have a solid relationship before getting intimate. Unless you are ready to commit to her then why push the issue.
 
I know of many young women here that are really old fashioned and wouldn't even kiss unless they were in love and knew their partner was equally committed. Also many young girls don't want to sacrifice their education and career for a relationship.
 
She might also be testing you to see how much you are willing to wait to prove that she is worth the effort.
 
If you do take it to the next level and break up with her, you might ruin it for the next guy who truly does love her.
 
I wonder if the posters here would make these same comments to guys trying to make it with their daughters?

By old fashioned, do you mean frigid?
 
You do realize its almost year 2014, do not you? and a very large number have kids by the age of 16 not to mention become sexually active by the age of 13 if not younger.

 
Combining the kids at 13 and the Uni must be difficult.


DO you know a way to skip teenage years and jump straight into uni?

#40 bender92

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Posted 2013-12-13 08:39:09

How old are you? Sixty or so? Maybe she don't want to kiss grandpa.



#41 krisb

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Posted 2013-12-13 08:41:37

Start with your hand on her leg.

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Posted 2013-12-13 08:43:33

I wanted to make some smarty pants remarks regarding this topic, but I Will refrain....



#43 Water Buffalo

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Posted 2013-12-13 08:43:37

 

Ask her.
 
I have met a lot of ladies who were easy to get into bed after "a couple of dates" - and they were ALL sluts.  (in my opinion).   I'm not condemning it, but the OP seems to be looking for a different type of girl than he has)
 
 

Teenage pregnancy is not really a good thing and by stating that it is getting more common doesn't justify it.
 
The OP's girlfriend is an adult.  Why are you talking about minors?

 
Do you really not get it?
 
If they become sexually active by the age of 13, they surely are not virgins by the age of 20 
 
Getting into bed after a couple of dates is a "slut" in your book? again, how old are you? and what middle eastern country do you come from?

 

 

What about the ones who didn't become sexually active at 13??

 

I have several university friends who are virgins and in their early twenties.

 

I am 26 and i come from the UK.
 



#44 napawan28

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Posted 2013-12-13 08:48:42

I think 6 month or even 2 year isn't too long for Thai culture. She want to proof you that you love her or just want to have sex with her.

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Posted 2013-12-13 08:50:06

 

 

If you are not trying hit and run and if you really like her why hurry? Can't you have some patience for someone you like?


Sure I can.

But I've been seeing her twice a week for six weeks, isn't that a bit long? That's a genuine question, not rhetorical... I dont know Thai dating culture.

But I know in the UK, go more than a few dates and you still haven't even kissed.. you're going to get friendzoned very fast.

 

 

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Posted 2013-12-13 08:50:18

 

If you are not trying hit and run and if you really like her why hurry? Can't you have some patience for someone you like?

Yes, I can.

But I've been seeing her twice a week for six weeks, isn't that a bit long to be where we are? That's a genuine question, not rhetorical... I dont know Thai dating culture.

But I know in the UK, go more than a few dates and you still haven't even kissed, if you're not escalating things.. you're going to get friendzoned very fast.

 

Get some relief from old mrs.palm and her five lovely daughters....



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Posted 2013-12-13 09:10:53

First ask if she is Muslim. If so, you need to convert before you can take it to the next level. Otherwise unlikely this will go anywhere.

In the more likely scenario that she is not a Muslim, she is probably just from a conservative background, where messing around with a boyfriend is frowned upon until some serious commitments are made. Also likely is that her family may not approve of her dating a foreigner and she is in limbo how to move forward. She would be ashamed to admit to this initially. In either case it will help if you invite a good female older friend, cousin or someone she trusts and looks up to to accompany you two on a date. Show the third person how charming you are, as she will be the one to decide on your future with the girl. At 20 she just isn't sure what to do, so she needs some backup. Offer it.

Been there done that with my gf. Family weren't really into foreigners (put mildly), but a couple of dates with chaperones (friends and female boss) gave her the courage to go through with it, disregarding her fears what her family might think. Very happy together for over 8 years now!!

 

I quite agree, ask her to invite a chaperone.  I always used to suggest to girls I invited out (not any more as I have been married for many years now) that they also invite someone to accompany them.  Even if she does not, you will come over as "kon dee" and there will be greater trust. 



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Posted 2013-12-13 09:12:08

I agree with posters that say she is very likely to be a virgin - most 20 year olds from "good" families are. And the reason is if they want to marry a Thai from a "good" family then their chances are very much reduced if they are not a virgin. Therefore she could be reluctant to loose it to you as you might leave her in the future - then what are her prospects? Thai society is far removed from Western society.

However if you have good intensions then keep the friendship going for as long as it takes - and this might be a long time - until she trusts you and see how things progress. If its too long then give up and find someone else.

If you just want to get laid then give up now and go to Soi Cowboy etc. And contrary to the comments bar girl haters in these pages you may meet a nice girl there too. But use good judgement.

#49 tingtongteesood

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Posted 2013-12-13 09:26:46

You saw her 12 whole times and you expect to be in her pants already. Despite the ideas many people have about this country, a lot of Thai girls are still quite old fashioned and not that 'easy'. If she is that type then she will not want to do the horizontal mambo with you until she is sure she wants to marry you and you have made very clear that you want to and plan to marry her. Be warned, some Thai girls are for life, not just for Christmas...



#50 brit1984

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Posted 2013-12-13 09:31:41

you came to the right place for advice

 

us web-forum members are all casanovas

 

i recommend to talk to your girlfriend







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