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In Topic: Blinky Bill

2012-04-27 19:53:02

View Postelektrified, on 2012-04-27 17:54:39, said:

That is very sad news. I met him and had a chat with him for a couple of hours one night over drinks. I too, instantly liked him. I always thought I would like to meet up with him again as he was really a fascinating person with lots of experiences over his lifetime.

R.I.P. Ian

My experience too. I met him one time at Tuskers and really enjoyed our conversation. At least I was able to meet him, if only once - I'm very thankful for that. His stories were really interesting and it was clear that he was genuine with a great heart. A big loss to us all. Condolences to his family.

R.I.P. Ian.

In Topic: New Visa Rules For Fathers Of Thai Children

2012-02-22 12:47:22

View PostStateSix, on 2012-02-22 11:30:41, said:

View Postventuralaw, on 2012-02-21 16:44:08, said:

View PostStateSix, on 2012-02-21 15:17:36, said:

Re your friend, what difference does going signing a piece of paper at the local Amphur really make if it enables him to stay with his family?  Is signing that paper really going to make a difference as to whether he and his wife stay together?

If they do split up it does not mean that the child will never get to see one of his parents.  Also, lots of children are raised by single parents and it needn't be disastrous.  I am sure workarounds can be found.

For the record, I don't have an issue with the visas not being given if the father is only named on the birth certificate.  However, I do believe that they should be given if you are proven to be the legally registered father, regardless of your marriage status.
Perhaps you've had little or no experience with family, but a parent who 'visits' is incapable of providing the stability and consistency of a parent who actually resides with his child(ren). Therefore the child(ren) suffer.

My best mate was raised by his mother only with limited input from his father who lived overseas.  He does not appear to have suffered, nor has his sister.  I accept that a stable, loving 2 parent family is generally better, but to say that children being raised by one parent will suffer is doing a disservice to many single parent families.
I suggest you ask your best mate rather than merely relying upon what you have observed. Knowing that one has a parent out there that would potentially be a positive influence but is not present or available day in and day out is less than ideal. I did not mean 'suffering' as living one's life in agony, but, I did mean that, for the child, having one parent not living in the same country as the child translates into, at best, an unfortunate situation.

In Topic: New Visa Rules For Fathers Of Thai Children

2012-02-21 16:44:08

View PostStateSix, on 2012-02-21 15:17:36, said:

View Postventuralaw, on 2012-02-21 14:38:31, said:

View PostStateSix, on 2012-02-21 14:11:46, said:

How many people is this really going to affect?

If you live and work here you should have a work permit so can get a visa based on that.

If you are retired you can get a visa based on that.

If you are married, you can get a visa based on that.

If you do not live in Thailand, but want to visit your children you can apply for a tourist visa to enter Thailand and do so.

The only people who will be affected, as far as I can see, are those who have retired early or have a sufficient income stream to enable them not to work, but are too young to meet the retirement visa requirements.
I know someone who is in his 30's, has a child with his Thai girlfriend and supports his gf, child, and gf's parents via rental income from overseas. He is left with 2 options - boarder runs every 2 weeks until that option is eliminated, or marry girlfriend. Forced marriages are successful even less often than those not forced.

What is a concern for many I'm certain this does effect is when the Thai mother of the child and foreign father split up. If father wants to continue to be involved in child's life, he will have to remove the child from Thailand, and therefore child will be raised without mother, or father leaves without child and child is raised without father. Either way it is disastrous for the child.  Once again, the Thai government not thinking, just doing.

Re your friend, what difference does going signing a piece of paper at the local Amphur really make if it enables him to stay with his family?  Is signing that paper really going to make a difference as to whether he and his wife stay together?

If they do split up it does not mean that the child will never get to see one of his parents.  Also, lots of children are raised by single parents and it needn't be disastrous.  I am sure workarounds can be found.

For the record, I don't have an issue with the visas not being given if the father is only named on the birth certificate.  However, I do believe that they should be given if you are proven to be the legally registered father, regardless of your marriage status.
Perhaps you've had little or no experience with family, but a parent who 'visits' is incapable of providing the stability and consistency of a parent who actually resides with his child(ren). Therefore the child(ren) suffer.

In Topic: New Visa Rules For Fathers Of Thai Children

2012-02-21 14:38:31

View PostStateSix, on 2012-02-21 14:11:46, said:

How many people is this really going to affect?

If you live and work here you should have a work permit so can get a visa based on that.

If you are retired you can get a visa based on that.

If you are married, you can get a visa based on that.

If you do not live in Thailand, but want to visit your children you can apply for a tourist visa to enter Thailand and do so.

The only people who will be affected, as far as I can see, are those who have retired early or have a sufficient income stream to enable them not to work, but are too young to meet the retirement visa requirements.
I know someone who is in his 30's, has a child with his Thai girlfriend and supports his gf, child, and gf's parents via rental income from overseas. He is left with 2 options - boarder runs every 2 weeks until that option is eliminated, or marry girlfriend. Forced marriages are successful even less often than those not forced.

What is a concern for many I'm certain this does effect is when the Thai mother of the child and foreign father split up. If father wants to continue to be involved in child's life, he will have to remove the child from Thailand, and therefore child will be raised without mother, or father leaves without child and child is raised without father. Either way it is disastrous for the child.  Once again, the Thai government not thinking, just doing.

In Topic: Mama Mia Pizza & Pasta In San Sai

2012-01-15 19:55:05

I tried the lasagna - mediocre. I'll try the pizza next because we really are starved for restaurants in San Sai and this is so close to where I live that I don't want to give up - not just yet anyway.

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