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#5309936 What Language Do You Use With Your Thai Partner?

Posted villagefarang on 2012-05-18 09:28:16

View PostIjustwannateach, on 2012-05-18 08:11:21, said:

Mostly Thai for the last 2 years or so.  I need to extend my vocabulary more, though.
From my experience that feeling never really goes away.  Even in our native tongue we don’t know every single word.

As a writer I often struggle to find just the right word.  As one becomes proficient in daily usage the desire to learn obscure seldom used words diminishes and the acquisition of new words slows considerably.


#5307356 Genetically Modified Papaya Found In Kanchanaburi: Chula Researcher

Posted Honkytowner on 2012-05-17 10:10:10

The problem with GMO plants is that their pollen is carried on the wind and can fertilise heritage (traditional) crops, forever changing the genetic make-up of succeeding generations. This results in a diminution of the gene pool and a reduction in the number of varieties within the species. It has become a huge problem in Mexico, for example, where farmers report that it is now very difficult to reproduce heritage corn because of gene transference from GMO corn pollen.

An additional problem is that the seeds produced by some GMO crops is intentionally infertile, so that farmers have to keep buying new seed. This has led, notably in India, to a large number of bankruptcies and suicides among poor farmers. Thanks, Monsanto.

Thailand's ban on GMOs is a rare and courageous stance.


#5288962 What Language Do You Use With Your Thai Partner?

Posted villagefarang on 2012-05-10 16:55:42

Early on my Thai was much better than her English so we spoke Thai almost exclusively but as her English improved we drifted into an interesting communication style where more often than not we do English/Thai, I speak English and she answers in Thai.  We are talking about a 15 year time span and our communication style is still evolving. We also do English/English or Thai/Thai depending on the situation.

I’m a believer in bilingual relationships.  Both parties should be fluent in both languages.  Whatever the excuses I don't think it is fair for one person to make all the effort and do all the heavy lifting.


#5307964 How Do Parents Feel When Their Son ( Or Daughter ) Is Gay

Posted Jingthing on 2012-05-17 13:19:17

Maybe we need a new forum for straight parents who are destined to be horrible if their children happen to turn out gay. Posted Image


#5309171 How Do Parents Feel When Their Son ( Or Daughter ) Is Gay

Posted khunbaobao on 2012-05-17 21:28:21

Of the people I know well enough in Thailand to discuss the topic most agree they're less likely to willingly accept homosexuality in their own children, but are much more accepting of gays otherwise.  My own personal guess would be that they feel they failed, made some mistake in child rearing or created a child with defects, but those can be common beliefs in most any country.  I'd also say they were all mistaken thoughts, too.

For a while I'd wondered if the blanket rejection of a gay child there had to do with the "Westernization" of the families involved, but that didn't seem to fit. You know - the influence of Western culture, religions and other pig-headed ignorance that passes for logical thinking within some groups.

Not many of my gay Thai friends are "out" to their families, but I'm glad that some can be.  Most are afraid of rejection, and with family being such a big part of life there I can't blame them for being skittish about it.  In a presentation I heard 20 years ago by speaker Brian McNaught he proposed that we gay people carry a secret, and that is "if you knew I was gay you wouldn't love me any more".  That's a very, very powerful fear.

If my children came to me and said they were gay I'd be so thankful that I could help share, inform, support and perhaps smooth the way for them a bit. Parents who reject their children for being gay are more than foolish, in my opinion.  I'd go so far as to say shameful, but the world is changing, little by little, so there's hope.


#5306672 How Do Parents Feel When Their Son ( Or Daughter ) Is Gay

Posted phuturatica on 2012-05-17 01:29:47

View PostJingthing, on 2012-05-16 16:24:12, said:

OMG, if you have to think about it Posted Image ... the answer of unconditional love for your SON should be automatic.

BTW, just so you know, being gay is not unheard of among Muay Thai boxers.

I second this... The fact that you have to go away and think about it means that your love is not unconditional. Very sad. :(


#5305524 How Do Parents Feel When Their Son ( Or Daughter ) Is Gay

Posted JUDAS on 2012-05-16 16:23:30

As a parent, the love for my children is unconditional. Their eventual sexuality is of no concern to me whatsoever.


#5305541 How Do Parents Feel When Their Son ( Or Daughter ) Is Gay

Posted Galong on 2012-05-16 16:29:50

My Thai step daughter is gay. When she came home with her new GF, neither her mom nor I batted an eyelash.

I would feel the same if she were my step son. Who am I to tell someone who they should or shouldn't love?


#2742858 Why Are You Still A

Posted bonobo on 2009-05-18 12:16:32

View PostUlysses G., on 2009-05-18 12:07:03, said:

View Postbonobo, on 2009-05-18 11:31:16, said:

Well, as of June 1, I will be officially a retired colonel, I might wait until then as you have already taken "The Colonel."  But "The Retired Colonel" does not have quite the same elan.  :)
You are a Colonel. That explains a lot. You certainly don't think like any Marine that I have ever met, but I was an enlisted man. :D



Well, I am sort of an outlier to most Marines, to be honest, enlisted or officer!  My world view is not that common among most Marines.


#2742740 Why Are You Still A

Posted bonobo on 2009-05-18 11:31:16

Well, as of June 1, I will be officially a retired colonel, I might wait until then as you have already taken "The Colonel."  But "The Retired Colonel" does not have quite the same elan.  :)


#5302160 How Do Parents Feel When Their Son ( Or Daughter ) Is Gay

Posted phuturatica on 2012-05-15 13:52:01

I wouldn't have an issue at all if my children were gay. My father is quite homophobic as he comes from a traditional Polish background where being gay is frowned upon and he always told my little brother that he would beat the living daylights out of him if he ever came out as gay. My brother always scoffed and said "yeah whatever" and has always been very masculine and bought home girls etc. However I did recently find out that he was bisexual and my parents have absolutely no idea about it.

As soon as my brother found out that I knew he said "You're not gonna tell Dad are you?" I just laughed and told him not to be silly. I don't care what sexuality my little brother is, I'm proud of him for who he is. :) However seeing as I know what my father is like, I will do the dutiful good sister thing and not mention it to my Dad. I think it is just best not to in this instance.

I'm sure one day, my brother will come out but when he is ready. I will respect that, even if he never comes out to my parents. At least he has his sister to confide in if he needs anything. He's only 19 years old now so he's still young. :)


#5264629 Why Do Falang Ignore Falang?

Posted edwinclapham on 2012-05-01 10:03:07

View PostIjustwannateach, on 2012-05-01 05:32:23, said:

Problem is, there are just too many foreigners here with too much baggage.  I'm not saying I should expect potential acquaintances/friends to be perfect, but all too often that baggage comes with very poor understanding of boundaries and mutual consideration.  I just don't need any more 'friends' who have dysfunctional energy-sapping levels of drinking, whoring, sex addiction, Munchausen's syndrome by chronic bad choice of partner proxy, financial self mismanagement, employment 'issues', or bipolar borderline dramatic disorders.  That's leaving aside minor but seriously annoying tendencies among many expats here towards stoneage conservativism, Thailand love/hate flipflop Tourettes', and chronic disagreeability compulsions....

So unless I meet someone THROUGH a member of a network I consider relatively sane and reliable, I'm not really eager to give them much of a chance.  Most of my preferred new friends and companions are those who've been here at least as long and preferably longer than I have, who've ironed out all the newbie wrinkles and have something that works going on (at least mostly), or at least have something more substantial to offer in terms of a longer term investment of friendship.

The highlighted says it all for me!


#5264841 Why Do Falang Ignore Falang?

Posted StreetCowboy on 2012-05-01 11:06:10

View PostIjustwannateach, on 2012-05-01 05:32:23, said:

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Problem is, there are just too many foreigners here with too much baggage.  I'm not saying I should expect potential acquaintances/friends to be perfect, but all too often that baggage comes with very poor understanding of boundaries and mutual consideration.  I just don't need any more 'friends' who have dysfunctional energy-sapping levels of drinking, whoring, sex addiction, Munchausen's syndrome by chronic bad choice of partner proxy, financial self mismanagement, employment 'issues', or bipolar borderline dramatic disorders.  That's leaving aside minor but seriously annoying tendencies among many expats here towards stoneage conservativism, Thailand love/hate flipflop Tourettes', and chronic disagreeability compulsions....

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I'm flattered.  I can't say I remember him at all


#5251083 Why Do Falang Ignore Falang?

Posted StreetCowboy on 2012-04-26 12:30:14

I often refrain from saying hello to strangers, if they look like they have come out without their business cards, to protect them from loss of face.

SC


#5252991 Why Is It So Difficult To Find A Good Friend In Thailand

Posted HeavyDrinker on 2012-04-27 03:55:48

Wouldn't that make both sets equally as socially inadequate IJWT?




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