Prudent_rabbit

The remarkable thing about kids is that they are human beings too, who  happen to be more dramatic in expressing their emotions. They haven't  grown up enough to know to conceal their true feelings and resort to  cunning and trickery. So, reading about these kids behavior is a good  indicator of the social undercurrent going on, but that the kids have  not learned to conceal yet.

Thailand's problem solving process goes like this; fight or flight.

When they fight, it is no holds barred and no quarter asked for or given.

When  they make flight, there is no possibility to get them to return to the  issue or location to talk rationally. They have no rationale. This is  how they get programmed through their childhood. No human is born with  Intel Pentium inside, and a host of software to know how to cope with  life. It has to get programmed in as the human grows up. Clearly, the  evidence surrounding us is a strong indicator of what type of  programming is going on. Animal from the start, and human being by  programming that brings out our better nature; otherwise, our animal  nature will rule.

These days in Western countries, if a father  administers tough love and corrects his children with a swat to the bum,  he goes to jail, gets a restraining order, goes through mandatory anger  management class, etc. The old days are gone, and the new Western world  will see the affects of children who do not respect each other due to  the inability to understand and respect each individual's boundaries.

The  West is a good example of how wrong it is for governments to involve  themselves in matters far better left to responsible, caring, and loving  parents. Mommy is the nurturer, and Daddy is "The Line". Don't step  over the line. But the West has systematically removed Daddy from the  home, which is now run by the remainder of the family unit. I hope  Thailand's government does not intervene as the West has. I hope they  begin putting the yoke of responsibility back onto the Father and  Mother.

But one problem here with the Thai fathers is one that bring s a saying to mind: "I am my father's son". The governments of the West had to make laws to get the father out of the home. The irony here is that Thailand needs to make laws to get the fathers back into the the home. There never was any need to get the fathers out of the home because the culture here does not seem to cultivate a patriarchal responsibility in a society that is known to be matriarchal. Hence the mom making a statement, and leaving me asking, "where the heck is dad?".

On a side note, I find it interesting that of all the  children in orphanages in Thailand, over 60% have parents who have not  yet signed a waiver of release for their kids to be in an orphanage.  Hence they cannot get adopted. Is this another facet of an issue where  Thai parents simply do not want to be involved with their children after  they get past that cute and cuddly age? If the beast is not programmed  to be a human of better nature, then it will grow into an adult beast,  with all the facade of simulating a normal adult. But when you look at  the track record, the diagnosis is clear.

What makes a person  stop-check their self before stepping across the line? Clearly, Thailand  has not found an answer to that, nor a deterrent to those who do. I  think the reason for this is that tugging at any one strand of this  social structure will cause the entire web to tremble.

To the  people who abhor any form of physical correction towards children, then I  wonder if they are also against having a strong military presence to  protect their right to abhor violence. After all, isn't a military  supposed to be prepared to punch the enemy in the snout and make them  think twice about stepping across the line?

Idealists seem to  hide behind the ankles of the realists when the doo-doo hits the fan.  But when everything is peaceful and serene, they come out from under  their rocks and condemn violence in all forms, regardless of the  necessity in life to administer it at certain times, and to certain  individuals, as a deterrent to far worse behavior - to get that beast  back on the track to becoming a human of better nature.

Let's  corral the idealists together and put them in the same neighborhood  where these unruly animals live. I wonder if they will start a  neighborhood charity and spend time with these not fully matured, feral humans, and mentor them onto the path of becoming human beings of a better nature. I  am quite certain it will not be long before they cry for someone other  than themselves to "get tough" on these kids.

You will never find an idealist in a fox-hole, and negotiating with children is the height of folly!