richard_smith237

angsta, on 2012-05-25 11:14:14, said:

What a stupid and wholly un-sensitive post.. Some people use the roads in order to see more of the countryside. Are you some kind of retard?

An idiot like you should be given a 'posting holiday' or banned.

angsta, on 2012-05-25 11:14:14, said:

what a heartless w@nker you are  -  these 3 kids died trying to see the real country, you can't do that from 25,000 ft in a plane

The pay for sex is a business relationship: you pay for a service.  

A genuine relationship enters into a thousand other spheres.  Sex is just one part of it.  

In a relationship the woman is having sex with you because she genuinely finds you attractive in some way, not because you barfined her and it is her job.

In a relationship with a female you also get a lot more of course.  A friend, a companion, a confidante, some self respect for yourself.  

Given a choice, which I do have, I would rather spend my money in a relationship , with all the benefits, than on a Hooker.

An investment in genuine human companionship is something you really can't put a price on.

Richard does nail it quite well, I think those on here that come out with this nonsense are generally those that have been burnt in the past. Normally through a costly divorce.

I have been divorced back in the UK and probably headed for one here soon but I still don't hold the opinion of we all pay for it. It's all about the relationship, and out here most of us would probably earn more than our partners and i think it's quite natural that we shoulder most of the costs.

Totally different to taking a girl from the bar for a good time, that is paying for it, and nothing wrong with it either

TommoPhysicist, on 2012-05-24 18:25:49, said:

No, but I understand logic. The phrase "one way or another" means that you will eventually pay for your experience. It's too bad things didn't work out for you in your marriage, but that doesn't happen with everyone. I have never been in financial trouble because of a woman, and it would be ridiculous to try and prove that it is inevitable.

But, eh, people enjoy ridicule so give it a shot!

My (Thai) wife is from a wealthier family than my (British) family. She (and her family) have contributed more (financially) to me and my family (financially) than vice versa, but even if she contributed zero (financially) I would still love her.

While money is very important, there are more important things in life. My wife has been through pregnancy (and labour) and given us a daughter, and she is now pregnant again with our son (who will be a famous cricketer by the way).

My wife's (non-financial) contribution to the relationship is worth more to me than all the money in the world.

HardenedSoul, on 2012-05-24 19:08:30, said:

I don't want to upset you but having sex with someone else's girlfriend is not good

richard_smith237, on 2012-05-24 19:26:28, said:

On bended knee I thank thee Richard, you have nailed it.

richard_smith237, on 2012-05-24 19:26:28, said:

Exactly. By all means, if you're too old/lazy/unattractive to get sex any other way, no one can really begrudge you dishing readies for it in a country where there are lots of women willing to accommodate you but, for cryin' out loud, don't try to tar every foreign guy with the same brush.

People have (appropriately) mentioned double standards, and it's certainly true. As a matter of fact, a harmless post about one man's method of meeting and serving older Thai women through doing some casual teaching was closed (Fun with Older Thai Women) because it was deemed to "too explicit". If you read it, it's very clear that there's nothing in it that's any more explicit than what is found in this thread. As a matter of fact, this thread is definitely more explicit.

blackpoolbob, on 2012-05-21 16:50:15, said:

eeeya, on 2012-05-21 17:13:48, said:

If you are that worried about your 'social status', surely you'd be using an iphone?

I dropped a 1 baht coin in 7/11 the other day, didn't think%2

TommoPhysicist, on 2012-05-20 15:00:14, said:

No Tommo, wrong. Typical of too many so called experts on Thai women.

There are plenty of Thai women out there that have a thoroughly modern outlook on life. There are plenty of members here that know exactly what I'm talking about when I use the phrase BKK Party Girl. These ladies are just like other ladies all over the world, they work, or they study, they get dressed of a Saturday night and they go out partying, if they see a guy they like and want to bed him, they bed him. No guilt, no asking Mommy in the village if it's okay, no money changes hands, nothing.

It's called being a modern woman, I lay you odds there are hundreds of members on this website that know exactly what I am talking about. Don't filter every opinion through the prizm of the sex trade or the views of the village elders. BKK is full of people who moved there so they could get away from the claustrophic atmosphere in their villages and home towns.  

All over the world women get their glad rags on, go out to the dancing, and set out to get laid, it's 2012 Tommo, not 1812. There are thousands upon thousands of women in the nightclubs and bars of BKK every night in the week that would be repelled by the idea of being treated like hookers, of being thought of as hookers. You have spent a long time in Thailand, have you not seen the reaction of some of the ladies when some idiot farang asks them "how much do you cost?" That's one sure way to a fight, a sure way.

So let's cut the crap, not all Thai women are hookers, not all Thai women feel the need to conduct their sex lives under the glare of family approval, in fact, shock development.......................

Many Thai women have a modern and open attitude to sex.

It's disgusting that some so called experts on Thailand and Thai women don't know that.

marquess, on 2012-05-12 06:59:07, said:

I agree to some extent that the the state should not monitor or censor peoples reading/writing  habits. I am a writer in my free-time and I work professionally in editing books. I would like to live in a world where everyone can say what they want freely & everything can be discussed openly in a friendly and civilised way.
But that is more a philosophical position, it is different when it comes to preventing terrorism, time is critical and the police in the UK are trying to stamp out sparks before they turn into fires.  I didn't lose any relatives in 7/7 but I still sat infront of the TV crying my eyes out  when I saw those terrified wounded people, their only crime was commuting to work in some grim office somewhere & many died and many others maimed. In my view, stopping any further such attacks is a practical necessity & overrides the philosphical 'freedom to read anything' argument. Its a hard balancing-act for the anti-terrorist police & I don't envy them their jobs at all. Sometimes they make huge mistakes such as in the Jean Charles De Menezes tragedy. For my part I'm happy to sacrifice my 'right' to read terrorist bomb making books  if it prevents another massacre like 7/7.

bangkokburning, on 2012-04-28 08:40:32, said:

"Please no comments on whether I should or should not pay. I am happy to do it and its not a big amount.I wasn't badgered into it."

Always one

Dibbler, on 2012-05-10 07:58:28, said:

300-500 Million Baht a year they are taking in and they haven't spent a satang, in over a dozen years at that income level, to improve the roads on one of the most visited and popular national parks, Koh Samet.  

But yet, as you say... they can spend millions on a useless junket.

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