Thakkar

Try fish oil; worked wonders for my Thai wife and our relationship.  We were facing similar problems and then I read an article on Omega 3 effects on depression, bi-polar disorder, violent behavior reduction in prisoners, etc.  I was surprised that she went for it much more readily than councelling or other options.  She's been taking multivitamins and Omega 3 supplements ever since (7 years) and it's a world of a difference.

"For years, omega-3 fats have been promoted for their cardioprotective benefits, now they are showing promise for their benefits to brain health. Science shows deficiencies in zinc, iron, protein and B vitamins in infancy can cause behavior problems in teenage years—since these nutrients are required for proper brain development. Researchers are now discovering that supplementation with omega-3 fats provides mood-stabilizing and antidepressant benefits, playing an important role in brain development and long-term health[1]. Emerging research also reveals omega-3 fats encourage the growth of neurons in an area of the brain that controls impulsive behavior; having enough of these EFAs may keep violent impulses in check. Supporting the idea that without the essential omega-3 fats the brain works poorly."

"In 2004 the National Institutes of Health published a study that found a correlation between the intake in omega-3 fatty acids and lower murder rates[2]. Since then, there have been numerous studies reaching the same conclusions. The same author published a paper in 2006[3] with the following conclusion “clinical studies suggest that supplementation with omega-3 fatty acids may reduce aggressive, impulsive and depressive behaviors” he went on to say that “omega-3 supplementation would be an important contribution to public health because these nutrients are inexpensive, non-toxic and readily available.”

If you want a real relationship, it is possible here but not easy. The bigger the age difference and the poorer the girl's background, the more difficult IMO. But never impossible.

Love is a verb, not a feeling. If you want to "have" love, you have to learn how to love, give the best of yourself to the other person, do your best to help them grow and learn to love themselves. If you have really made a committment to the other, pulling out because they are going through hard times would IMO only be betraying yourself.

However there are many dishonest people out there who will try to take advantage of others. If you're just looking for youth, external beauty and fun in exchange for money, then at least be honest with yourself and your service provider at all times so everyone is aware you're going to pull the plug when it isn't "fun" for you anymore.

Don't forget many times both sides are the victims here, not least of their own mental paradigms. Real love can sometimes turn around even the worst situation, but it always take time, patience and the willingness to suffer.

chiang mai, on 2012-02-17 10:06:02, said:

How do you change a centuries old habit? Like you change anything, by making the first step. I didn't say it's easy, or that I have a plan. I am just saying that's what needs to happen. If you think that it would be impossible be my guest - I don't think it is. But that's a different discussion.

"Also, what makes you think the pollution is caused by burning within Thailand, maybe the majority of it is carried in on air currents from China and the like" ROFL. Map reading does not seem your strong suit. Or maybe you subscribe to the Korean BBQ theory proposed by CM authorities some years ago?

It's obvious both on a local, and on a global level: Locally, if you live in Pai for a few years you'll notice the most astounding correlation: If the mountains are on fire at night, the air gets really bad. If you're sitting in the middle of a bonfire you don't need to be asking where the smoke is coming from.
Globally, just look at the above satellite map. Thailand, Laos, Burma, Cambodia are all on fire. Fire is known to cause smoke, and smoke causes air pollution. Huge, major burning causes major pollution. Singapore/Malaysia has the same problem with "Haze" as it's euphemistically called from forest fires in Indonesia. Seasonal, same as here.

I think it's amazing people could even be thinking about other causes, yet it happens every year. "Maybe it's the cars" - cars are not seasonal. The big fires are. "Maybe its the Korean BBQs?" Well they're not seasonal either, apart from the fact that the suggestion seems straight out of Monty Python. "The neighbor burning their trash" - that's annoying, and not helping, but please look at the sat map - there are LARGE SCALE fires all over the region. The satellite only shows fires of 10 hectares or more! One drive through the north of Thailand and you will see that apart from the huge fires captured by the satellite, there are smaller fires everywhere.

In fact at the end of the summer, you will be hard pressed to find a section of the forest that has not been burnt. The locals are doing it for a variety of reasons and as you said have been doing so for generations. That doesn't mean it's good, or that they need to keep on doing it as only now do we have the means to trace cause and effect, we have the satellite images and the hospital statistics from that time of the year. All the data is there, the cost associated with the burning I am sure stands in no relation to the gains - just like in other parts of the world where burning used to be the way to do things.
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Any generalization would be daft... A similarly daft question would be 'Why do all Western Pattaya residents frequent gogo bars ?'... The don't but some might make the generalization that they do... As Generalizations stand, this myth that Thai women prefer foreign men is perhaps perpetuated by those socializing within a very specific demographic. Those who suggest Thai ladies of a 'wealthier' demographic are unattainable themselves perhaps fall within another demographic.

But, like anywhere else in the world - For those who fit within a certain socioeconomic, educational and of course 'looks' demographic the world opens up significantly.

The abundance of hookers and 'occupational farang hunters' confuses the issue somewhat as these ladies 'pack hunt' for available suitors primarily and even only for financial reasons. Once economic factors within the 'lower demographic's' are removed there really is very little difference between Thailand and our home countries. Where the 'economic' factor is reduced other factors such as character, social status, education, humor, looks etc all play the vital role in whom we attract, of course, so does the character, social status, education, humor, looks etc of the person we are trying to attract.

Don't be fooled by the minority. Any guy who lives in Thailand will tell you that the normal Thai girl, I am talking about the normal population is not interested in foreigners at all. Do you hang out in China town in your home country? Neither do normal Thais. Try to date a typical middle class Thai and she will be very afraid to tell her parents or friends. We go to Thailand and meet the ones who are targeting foreigners for the money. It is a small minority. After living here, I have met so many more that want nothing to do with us. We don't get exposure to them because they avoid the foreigner outlets.

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I love those Brits who get so fed up with immigration that they move to another country.

anterian, on 2012-01-11 17:49:15, said:

And if you don't wear clothes in your home you should not be allowed to wear clothes in school.

ginjag, on 2012-01-11 10:06:00, said:

You make many valid points so I hope no one shouts you down for your view.  I basically agree with you.

Though we bash them for being intollerable of other religions and then you say you basically want it the same way for them in your/our countries.  Surely we don't want to be brought down to their level.  I don't think we are that intolerable to deny a woman the right to wear a headscarf.

I don't think wearing a headscarf is offensive to another religion.  Same as the Jewish that wear the kippah or the monks that wear robes.  Nothing in that is offensive to me in the least.

I agree it is the imposing forefully of the religion that is objectionable and the lack of integration and also trying to make everyone live by THEIR law.  But simply wearing a headscarf doesn't impose anything on me.  If the women want to wear them then go for it, I view it more as a fashion than a religious statement.

This is a thread about a discount being offered to ThaiVisa members. It's probably easy to forget that and to dwell on ones miserable life and to try to change the thread into something else. I don't mind some negative comments but when it is put forward as a challenge or as a dig it becomes irrelevant. If you really want to be constructive you should walk into the restaurant, like a man, on some quiet afternoon and ask for me. You know who I am talking about because it is the same people over and over again.

These are the same people that somehow do not realize that some people work hard for a living or perhaps they are jealous because these people are attempting to support themselves and their families. The Tusker's thread was a case. I'm sure there were many reasons for just walking out the door but you might be able to argue that the negative posts on this web site ruined their chances of making a sale on the business. This is the business that offered a free dinner to new expats and who supported ThiaVisa like no one else ever has. So let's try to keep our eyes on the ball.

I didn't have to offer this discount for members of this web site. Both locations of The Duke's regularly do 100 to 250 customers a day. Our business is up this year from last and this will be our best year ever in 6 years. I did it because someone asked.

As far as the traffic that is coming in the door from this offer I can say that there has been an initial surge in people coming in and getting food to go. I'd like to wait till the end of the month to see if it drops off.

i do understand cos i myself have my limit of food . but let spare everyone the info .


First i give you some serious advice .
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When you got a condition is YOUR DUTY  to take care of your Diet . Target special restaurant for your Meal or COOK it yourself . that what i do .

As much as you are still making noise here is a sign that you had not suffer enough which is good in a waye meaning you or your wife had not die from the food condition problem .


Why take the risk . the Asian way is much different from  your way of life and knowing your problem  or sharing it here do not really solve your problem . it would happen again and again . till one day one party suffer from it or rather many party suffer for you .

is all due to one simple reason .. you are not responsible enough to look for the right type of Food . all you prefer is by random walk into some food outlet and hope there bend their back for you .

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my offer for you .

1. cook it yourself . BEST CHOICE ( if you want to learn cooking there is alot of cook school in Cm also  i can point you to some )
2. look for me i bring you to some real Vegetrain food outlet . in fact i been eating it for 2 days now cos i miss the good food there since i reply your post .
3. keep your meal . bring your own food that you can buy from many of the super market .
4. maybe is time you convert into a fuitratian ( bascially you only eat fruit )
5. Hire me to be your cook . i can cook some really nice food my price start with $250 usd per hour ( seriously ) i get you the best fresh food and 100% no meat no fish . and still taste as good

location  if you want to eat on the street ,

Chiangmai Gate have 2 outlet  look out for this logo .

I went down to the outlet this morning at about 7am and i recall your post so here some photo not sure what time their close but about 3-4 pm i assume please check

Here is the logo you should be looking out - usually is a large yellow banner or flag .



The outlet is located at Chiangmai Gate .  if needed please print it out and ask around chaingmai gate  their food is CHEAP and good .100%




Since your Wife is Thai .  i assume she like Somtum . here is a Vege version i ate this morning . and it tase SUper . with SEAWEED .


NOTE - some vege food in thailand EGG is added .depend  on who do it .



- i am confuse cos i am lazy to read all  am i talking abot the same person whahhahahahhahahhahahahhaha


protect yourself by being responsible to your choice .
blaming others is not going to make your life better .

so one fine day you and your wife might want to try the vege version of the puffy fish .and the chef give you some real stuff ..

so being responsible . maybe you should start writing  and hire a good lawyer for your Will . so someone can sue for you after you die .

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Seriously on the side note are you trying to Kill your wife ?
your wife seem to be having alot of food condition and seem like you care less to go extra out to make sure she is protected ..

from your last post . i think is time you custom your wife diet .  there is no shy  what so ever if you are suffering . but is there shy on your part to protect who you love ?

While I respect yours and your wifes circumstance and conditions, what you say may be true in a what  may be considered a finer restaurant in the outside world.  But  this is Thailand and the little mom and pop type of street stalls or even shop house restaurant would probably not have a trained cook or chef.  They are someone usually that cooks something their way and most people like it and compliment them on their preparation, and continue to come back.

Then along comes someone with specific dietary needs, and justly so, this cook just may not be prepared to do things in that  manner, and of course this being Thailand, this person would not say they could NOT do something.

I would say it would be on the hands of the person with those specific needs to seek out what may look like a more likely establishment that may have a trained cook/chef that would understand their specific needs.

These are not usually the noodle shops/shop house places and do not usually provide street stall/shop house restaurant prices.

Not just in food or diet, but in  many other aspects of life, there are people with special needs.  They should understand that all there needs cannot or may not be able to be met in all places.

Offered with all due respect to those with specific conditions.

Gonzo

Surely if you start handing out presents to everyone then you're still playing the 'class' game? Look how rich (and stupid) I am, I can give you fruit! Well, gawd bless yer eyes milord, 'cos the likes o' me can't get me 'ands on a watermelon!

I believe that people are equal, it's just that hi society folks tend not to realise it and can feel threatened by familiarity with people who have to work for a living.

Generally speaking, most middle class people understand the value and contribution that the less well off members of society make. After all, if they didn't have to work for 200 baht a day, those self-same middle class folk wouldn't have a labour force. Also, middle class people often work extremely hard themselves and the more enlightened among them understand that if their life circumstances were different, they would be working just as hard but for a lot less money.

If you want to perpetuate the worst aspects of a class-divided society then you are, in my opinion, making it worse.

If you want to maintain a healthy relationship with those around you then, again in my opinion, you can do so without being taken for some kind of idiot who gives things away for nothing, whilst at the same time, not acting like some colonial-type snob who wafts through the 'lower classes' with a haughty expression and your nose in the air.

Everyone, at some point, will find themselves having their last thought in this life. I hope it will be a happy one. We have, if we're lucky, time to reflect on our lives and ponder if it was well spent.

Up to you how you want to remember your life and be remembered by others.

Biff

Regardless of how rich Thais tr eatpoor Thais, I'm quite certain that failing to treat Thais as rational thinking adults with all the same strengths and weaknesses as the rest of us is at the root of why so many Farangs F-up big time in Thailand.

The fact he beleives they are not gossiping about him could, in no small way be related to the fact that he DOES NOT UNDERSTAND enough Thai language to evesdrop on their conversations.

Earlier this week I spent the afternoon with a very respectable lady, the mother of one of my students. She is married to a local surgeon, a nicer man you could not hope to meet. Anyway, a lift home turned into going for a coffee and a trip to the mall and picking kids up from school and at each juncture I was aware of the stares and pointing. I asked her if it bothered her and she replied, "No, its natural for people to gossip when they see a farang with a thai woman. My husband knows me, he accepts me and we have no secrets. It doesn't matter". Later at her "country home" while watching her sons play tennis her husband arrived and she recounted the conversation to him. He just smiled and nodded. Now, these are to professional people of good standing in the community and if they tell me its natural for thais to gossip when they see me with a thai lady, I am going to take them at their word.

The fact that my own experience backs up their observation helps too.

If other farang want to live in a bubble and pretend that everything in the gardern smells of roses, thats their business. We all live our own reality and if its not hurting anyone, where is the harm in a few old boys grinding out their twilight years on some willing thai maiden? No harm at all.

Spee, on 2010-10-01 07:17:16, said:

Ha Ha!  Most of our readers will miss the self-parodying irony of this post, and might take it seriously.
Remember that stupidity is like atomic power - best handled carefully, and you don't want to get any on you.

SC