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rgs2001uk, on 2011-08-23 16:04:35, said:
ozziebloke, on 2011-08-23 11:50:37, said:
smileydude, on 2011-08-23 11:01:04, said:
sfbandung, on 2011-08-23 04:18:55, said:
The Thai bashing going on here is unbelievable.
I have a couple of questions to the detractors:
If you live in Thailand but feel the need to rubbish the place and the people endlessly then why do you stay?
If you don't live in Thailand and are not in a relationship with a Thai then why are you here in this forum rubbishing a place and people you know nothing about?
If you have married a beautiful woman 20 or more years younger than you and you think it's because you are a great person then why couldn't you jag a young beauty in your home country?
I am married to a Thai lady 19 years my junior, we presently live in another 3rd world country where I am working at present. I've lived here for nearly 20 years and have seen plenty of blokes who fall hopelessly in love with young girls and then suffer emotionally or financially or both. There is no doubt the vast majority of these types of relationships (ones with a substantial age difference) are based initially on the lady wanting out of a desperate situation, either abject poverty or being subject to routine bashings. Not because they find old men attractive. This happens in all 3rd world countries, it is not unqiue to Thailand. Many of these relationships fail and many prosper. Young blokes have an excuse for being naive, older men don't. Accept the fact that the lady is with you to escape and try to make it work. Most older blokes can tell very quickly, certainly inside a year, if they're being had.
Where I live there is a fairly small Thai community (30 - 40 ladies) comprised almost exclusively of women who were "working" in Thailand and subsequently married a farang client who offered them a permanent way out. They are a highly principled group and their husbands (like myself) are the happiest they have ever been. There are few exceptions. Perhaps it should be pointed out though that these men all have many years of 3rd world country experience.
LIfe is what you make it. Be a realist and be careful. If you're not happy then do something about it, don't sit and bitch and try to make everyone around you miserable too.
If you screwed up, it's your fault, no one else's.
I have a couple of questions to the detractors:
If you live in Thailand but feel the need to rubbish the place and the people endlessly then why do you stay?
If you don't live in Thailand and are not in a relationship with a Thai then why are you here in this forum rubbishing a place and people you know nothing about?
If you have married a beautiful woman 20 or more years younger than you and you think it's because you are a great person then why couldn't you jag a young beauty in your home country?
I am married to a Thai lady 19 years my junior, we presently live in another 3rd world country where I am working at present. I've lived here for nearly 20 years and have seen plenty of blokes who fall hopelessly in love with young girls and then suffer emotionally or financially or both. There is no doubt the vast majority of these types of relationships (ones with a substantial age difference) are based initially on the lady wanting out of a desperate situation, either abject poverty or being subject to routine bashings. Not because they find old men attractive. This happens in all 3rd world countries, it is not unqiue to Thailand. Many of these relationships fail and many prosper. Young blokes have an excuse for being naive, older men don't. Accept the fact that the lady is with you to escape and try to make it work. Most older blokes can tell very quickly, certainly inside a year, if they're being had.
Where I live there is a fairly small Thai community (30 - 40 ladies) comprised almost exclusively of women who were "working" in Thailand and subsequently married a farang client who offered them a permanent way out. They are a highly principled group and their husbands (like myself) are the happiest they have ever been. There are few exceptions. Perhaps it should be pointed out though that these men all have many years of 3rd world country experience.
LIfe is what you make it. Be a realist and be careful. If you're not happy then do something about it, don't sit and bitch and try to make everyone around you miserable too.
If you screwed up, it's your fault, no one else's.
Well said!
here here
I also know of, quote "a fairly small Thai community (30 - 40 ladies) comprised almost exclusively of women who were "working" in Thailand and subsequently married a farang client"and know for a fact that the qoute "highly principled group" couldnt be further fom the truth.
From the jealousy, bitterness and resentment to the hatred and hostility shown to each other, to the lieing cheating and stealing and thats just to the other Thais, never mind the husbands.
Wifes who cannot or will not cook, wifes who refuse to clean the house or do washing and ironing, house boys to do everything, in some cases the women herself.
All day spent gambling drinking and sat on their ass eating som tam whilst viewing Thai soaps on the tv.
The boyfriends, both inside the 3rd world country and here in Thailand.
Husbands at their wits end trying to keep up with the ever growing demands.
One husband setting fire to his wifes clothes to try and keep her indoors and away from her gambling friends, no problem they just came to her house.
A husband on reaching 65 and facing retirement writing a letter trying to be kept on as a "special advisor" such was his financial plight.
Another husband driven to the airport literally kicking and screaming when his job was done away with, the same guy breaking down in tears in a managers office begging for any job that would enable him to stay.
A Thai woman willing to give away her baby to anyone willing to take it off her hands.
Another who (allegedly) tried to have her husband shot whilst on holiday in Thailand.
Others going on holiday with the boyfriend to Thailand under the pretext of taking care of family business.
It was my experience that quote, " Most older blokes can tell very quickly, certainly inside a year, if they're being had.", most of them were either in denial, turned a blind eye to or were ignorant of what was happening around them, this inspite of being told what was going on.
One mug I knew blamed himself for his wife screwing around, told me it was his fault for working too hard, others heard all the excuses and still put up with it.
One guy I knew told me his wife had made his life a living hell, constantly belittling him in front of others, the poor guy couldnt do enough, thankfully he saw the light and has since divorced.
Yet another whose wife took him to the cleaners, her and her Thai boyfriend are now living in a house this sucker bought and driving his car, damned near broke the poor guy.
I could go on, but why bother.
We must of course be talking about two different 3rd world countries with two differing types of women.
Yes we are !!!!!!
A couple of days ago I read that Thailand was trying to change it's image from being known as the sex captial of the world by eliminating prostitution. It seems to me that their priorities are backwards. Land Fraud, police fraud, attorney fraud. Behind the fluff of a modern infrastructue, sky trains, subways, big malls, etc. It is still a 3rd world country. Corruption here will never go away. 
