MikeandDow

F1fanatic, on 2010-10-04 23:31:54, said:

And what the feck has it got to do with you anyway ?

If you wasn't a man, I'd say you was a bitter and twisted old farang woman whose husband had left her for a bargirl.

onnut, on 2010-10-03 20:23:07, said:

First of all, I believe the story is from the Daily Mirror newspaper (I use that term gaurdedly) which has a proven dislike for anything Thai. See previous posts...in which simply living in Thailand is equated with living in "squalor" also by the Mirror.
Secondly, I don't disagree that the child may be better off financially and for lifestyle advantages in the U.K. I have no information regarding the child except what I read in this news story...so I assume that the boy is happier in the U.K. However, there is no proof of that is there? Just the word of the Daily Mirror and it's anti Thai bias to go on.
The point I want to make is that this story just automatically assumes that his MOTHER, being Thai, is somehow less likely to love the boy than her FATHER (who being a Brit is naturally superior to her). To be fair, for all I know she may be a true B_tch...but there is no proof of that.
I'm not quibbling here, but simply making the assumption that the boy living in the U.K. seperated from his mother, will automatically be happier than living in Thailand is something that may be an assertion...but requires proof to be true.

I fail to see how this is a problem.

Many bars do not let them in either, because we don't want to drink with them.

I said to a bargirl once, 'Why do you keep the blacks out?' and she said 'Because if Farang see African man, he not come in'.
I said 'Yep, you're right'.

All they do is try and sell me cocaine, and try to 'look after me' on Sukhumvit. It gets quite tiring.

bangkokcitylimits, on 2010-10-04 09:35:20, said:

my my, what a bitter little fellow you are!

transam, on 2010-10-01 19:42:35, said:

The difference my friend is that Rod and Mel marry beautiful young women, whereas most farang men marry ugly Isarn women. Anyone who has lived in Isarn for a while knows this. I was speaking to an elderly Ozzie bloke the other night who has come over to get a wife - I was bloody amazed - he is about 75 with plenty of cash and she is about 35 and not just ugly but obviously from the lowest rung of Isarn society. These old guys are clueless.

How many old guys, WHO HAVE LIVED HER FOR 10 YEARS say marry an ugly Isarn woman?

How many old gys who married a woman when they first got here are still happily married 10 years later and still think their wife is beautiful and remain faithfull?


They make a mistake! Accept it and find a new one.

There are many beautiful Isarn women.


I met my wife( not typical Isarn woman) in Italy where I was for a photo shot when I was modelling and my wife was travelling. I'm lucky because if I had come to Roi Et for a photo shoot I could easily have been one of the conned ones. My wife is 2 years younger than me.

I have compasion for the general old guys but they are embarrassing. I was in a posh restaurant last week in Bangkok when a old coger came in waiing the staff with a woman who looked like a maid from a Thai soap.
It was horrible watching the clueless idiot.

Another thing -  when we are abroad we sometimes get some nasty looks as the general Ozzie hasn't a clue between the tuk tuk driver's daughter and the King of Laos's great- granddaughter.

People continually mix up love with sexual  attraction.  I loved my parents, I love my siblings, I love my children, and I love my grand children, but I certainly don't want to have sex with them. Lots of married people seldom have sex any more with their spouse. They've just lost the sexual attraction, but that doesn't mean they don't love each other.

Over my 55 years of experience of dealing  with the opposite sex I've met many stunningly beautiful women who didn't particularly care about the actual sex act, but they tried to act the part. Conversely, I've met some incredible hotties that could chew up any man and look for a dozen more. But, that doesn't mean that, that woman would make a good marriage partner. There is no telling what you are going to get at face value and all you can do is experiment to find someone who suits you personally. That goes for BOTH partners. Everyone has different priorities, and who are others to say what is right or what is wrong?

We seem to have these Young Men ranting about Old men with Young Women,on TV quite regularly,so it's good to see a thread devoted to the subject.

When are they going to get it? its the couples personal choice to be together,the reasons for their relationship,is theirs and theirs alone.Do they think the couple concerned give a toss about their narrow minded opinions?

It wasn't too many years ago that most Asian Marriages were arranged by the Parents,and that was a deal about Finances,and sustainable long term support for the Young Bride,and also about being a good Father to the children.
Love never entered the equation,which is only a notional feeling anyway,which after the initial adrenaline rush,of a new relatioonship,soon changes, into long term Affection,Respect,Stability,Security and Caring.If one is Lucky.

The message is very clear when you have been in Asia long enough to learn something.

Love and Contentment doesn't just happen because you are young and handsome,its about can you support them,and give them a good lifestyle? and not about your Adonis features,size of your Biceps,and your trendy clothes and hairstyles,which is superficial nonsense,but fits in nicely with the Romantic dreams and ideals of Youth,the Hearts and Roses stuff of the inexperienced dreamers!

My wife and I tolerate the odd leer and guarded comment,from those who do not approve of our obvious age difference ,whilst others more open minded and worldly,dont give it a second thought.
Get over your self rightious moralising fella's,it not going away anytime soon,we can make our own mistakes,without your dubious wisdom!

I don't see may girls sticking with guys with no money in any country.  All seems rosy and dandy until the bank balance gets low.

I have never been knocked or heard from anyone knocking me about my wife 20 yr younger than me and you could knock another 10yr of again for her looks.
When we were in England all I use to get was is that your daughter and when l said no the lady is my wife, they say you lucky ' B '.
l started with an English wife 6months older, the next one was 9 years younger, the next 14 years younger and now my present Thai wife and l have been together nearly 10 years.
l never give any thought to what other people think,  everyone to there own my dad use to say ' B ' to em all.
l have no regrets,  all the past was dealt with in an amicable way in dealing with the settlment of any disputes.
What the heck l say how can a man stay with one woman for the whole of his life it just ain't natural.

taninthai, on 2010-10-01 16:27:28, said:

If it was my daughter's choice then why would I care?  Lots of daughters EVERYWHERE marry guys who her parents don't approve of. Sometimes the parents are right and sometimes the girl is right. The 14 year old daughter of a Thai family I take care of just had a baby to a Thai boy only a few years older than herself. I wonder how long that relationship will last. There are no hard and fast rules anywhere. If couples are happy for only a few years then I don't see that it should be anyone else's concern but their own. Everyone wants the Hollywood romantic marriage, but only a tiny percentage of people achieve that utopia. Everything else is a compromise.

All I can say is who cares what other people do?

I was in Non Khai once with my then close-to-my-age g/f.  We went into a fairly nice restaurant, and while sitting, an oldish guy, impeccably dressed, came in with a very young, very beautiful woman, also impeccably dressed.  He held out her chair, and they conversed in Thai throughout their meal.  There had to be 50 years between them, but both seemed happy.  I caught the guy's eye and gave him a salute. He smiled and saluted back.

If you can, why not?  And whose business is it anyway?

Ho Hum............  

Just what the world needs...another book about Thailand written by someone who doesnt have a clue about Thailand or the culture. Basing it on the experiences of a bunch of bar stool or expat cynics.

I am glad it is a novel.....the idea certainly isnt

tonititan, on 2010-09-26 16:26:43, said:

Yes clearly he's a sucess. He knows fashion very well also.

His choice of an uneducated bargirl with bad english is only because "women" are such an angry annoying species right? Theres no chance in hel_l he's just an uneducated trailerpark trash who waited his whole life to have a long mullet and a 'slave' wife that would not understand him, therefore wouldn't be put off by his dumbness.

There's about 0,0000,0000% of a chance that you arent him, his friend or in the same situation.

thisdude, on 2010-09-25 12:51:19, said:

Oh dear!

Having a bad day?

This is exactly why I have for several years refused to be a part of thaivisa.. you people are a bunch of self righteous wanke_rs. Have none of you ever had troubles in your life?
In what way does a person on overstay affect any of you?
and how is it any of your business? I am not on overstay and have never in my 8 years overstayed but I still dont feel I have the right to go pointing my greasy  finger at someone who may have fallen down on their luck. not every fallang here is rich. some people including friends of mine have had difficulties in keeping up with their visa situation and are standing on their own two feet here without momma or daddy paying or bailing them out.
Not every foreigner here on overstay is on overstay because of drugs alchohol or woman troubles. some have legitimate problems to over come.