spud1

ah......... the famous thai temper and loss of face.

what ever happened to talking it out or a good ol fist fight. winner is the one still standing

havent met a thai man yet who would stand and fight. even if they do and get beaten, they go get a gun.

cowards the lot of them and this incident reinforces that.

The problem is simple, most Africans here if not all are on some kind of scam mission and have left hotels without paying the bills, ran out on restaurants and are one way or the other involved in the drug trade. There was a time when Nigerians couldn't get a visa anymore to come here. The "Bangkok Hilton" is full of Nigerians, Ghanese etc.. and quite frankly, there is no country in the world that has more crooks than Nigeria and they export them too.

His problem is that Thai's can apparently not tell the difference between an African and an African American.  Are Thai's racist? absolutely among themselves and against just any other non Thai.  Southern Thais against any none southern Thai, Bangkok Thai's against any non Bangkok Thai's etc...

I'm not racist, but in the current world, I would not feel comfortable on an airplane if a number of Arabs would be there as passengers or terrorists. Would I give a Nigerian car park attendant  my car key's ? For that matter an Italian in Rome?

The Africans have made the bed for all black people here and unfortunately some non involved African American's paying the price.
One more thing, so called "Rappers" should not really complain, considering the contents of a lot of their so called music ......

All good points, but paople forget that the Thai's are racist to us white farang also. Or haven't you noticed that?

LT3, on 2010-09-18 08:58:47, said:

She is marrying you because she loves you, she's having your baby!

In England, the tradition was that the father of the bride used to pay for the wedding, because the groom was taking a financial burden (his daughter, as women were seen as 'property' and cost money to keep) away from him. In Thailand it was the other way round, the groom was taking away someone who was an earner for the family and also wanted to demonstrate that he was financially able to contribute to the family. The tradition has changed somewhat but it has it's roots in pretty much exactly the same as ours does, just the other way round. It's not slavery.

Dowrys are one family showing another that they aren't paupers and their children have made an equal match. The same as our tradition of the brides father showing the grooms family that their son has married into a family of 'means' by paying for the wedding.

Anyway, there's plenty of sin sodt threads on here and plenty of people who won't pay it 'cos it's wrong' and plenty who will 'cos it's how they do it in Thailand' ultimately it's up to you and your girlfriend to sort out between you,

and her mum,

and the rest of the family,

and the village,

and any other people who, for some reason, haven't got anything else to gossip about today.


If indeed you did pay 10,000 baht sin sodt then that was quite cheap, so I doubt that it was a wedding (my g/f's nephew just got married, no monks, no paperwork, just a wedding party, and he paid 30,000 sin sodt to his wife's mum plus 1 baht gold to his wife).

But you've been through some kind of ceremony that you don't understand, that's a bit weird if I may say so!

We had an impromptu 'good luck for you and you g/f' ceremony, I woke up one morning and there was a pigs head being boiled in a pot over a fire, we took lots of food, lots of laokhao and lots of people off up to the local shrine for some kneeling and praying, it was nice, it was definitely about us being a couple, we were the focus of the whole thing, but no money changed hands, I wasn't asked for a single baht and we aren't married.

Are you married or not? How come you didn't ask before you did it?
Anyway, everyone will regard you as married because you're living together and she's pregnant, whatever kind of party you had.

As for a legally binding marriage that can only be done at the Amphur, like a Registry Office in England, it's just the paperwork side of things. Lot's of Thai people don't bother with it, same as in England, you co-habit, everyone regards you as a couple, in England, so does the law to a certain extent, but in Thailand, you need to get the paperwork done for it to be legal.

Again, there's lots of threads on here about how to go about doing that, you need some paperwork from your embassy and that needs to be translated and certified by the Thai authorities before you go to the Amphur.

I think, as Bina said, you need to do some learning about what you've got yourself into, and quickly too!

Good luck!

Biff

I feel prety much the same as you Ian.

I had been living and traveling in Thailand quite happily for several years before I settled down got a computer and found this site before realizing what a terrible place this Thailand is  

Hey Loz

Your posts have been popping up up with increased frequency of late.

All of a like.

You claim you wouldn't even have sex with a Thai woman as they bore you or are unattractive to you. So you don't have a dog in the fight.

You want to get back to jolly ol' so you can experience the thrill of the hunt. Best of luck in that endeavor but you better be quick because your best before date is rapidly approaching. And you aren't going to be happy with the pickings.  

Seems to me you are marking time 'til your return to Blighty. And your recent posts are, to me, the equivalent of turning around as you go leave, and yelling out "You're all wanke_rs!"

spud1, on 2010-08-23 14:05:26, said:

Actually I'm out and about BKK 7 days a week.

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Drive on the left, wear a helmet, don't go over overpass bridges, no u-tuns when there's a no u-turn sign.

In 5 years I've never been pulled over when adhering to these really quite simple local laws.

Can't adhere to the law, don't complain when penalized.