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TravelTeach, on 2012-05-15 19:43:33, said:
gerryBScot, on 2012-05-14 22:46:03, said:
What I find interesting, and my perspective is that of a sober alcoholic, is that even on those few occasions when you do drink these days, it isn't getting any better.
Oh yes, I see what you're saying. No, it's not getting any better. It's still the same old "can't stop once started". The only positive thing (if you can call it that) here is that I heard that very few alcoholics can simply cut down on alcohol. Most have to be totally abstinent. Do I have that right? What I was hoping was that I could still drink, but just on rare occasions. And that has happened.
Now, the next thing I hope will happen is that I'm able to have a glass of wine with a meal. But...I'm ready to accept that might not be possible. Or maybe after a while it won't even be desired.
TT I don't want to steer you towards "alcoholic" or "controlled drinker" or whatever.....I don't know that definitions are that helpful. Most of us recoil from words like "alcoholic". If you accept that it's not going to get better then you will one day accept that that one glass of red wine is maybe not so important. You will understood the overwhelming logic of the corollary which is that you can't get drunk if you don't have that one glass of red wine! Keep doing what you are happy with and keep looking after yourself.
