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At first I thought, dating or marrying a muslim; no big deal. You want to be with somebody you love. But then I started thinking and asking questions, which is what I hope the OP will do. My post does not concern the religion at all.....I think that giving up control is the real issue to be addressed.  It appears that you are willing to follow this girl in many ways.  No sex, no kissing, converting, maybe an operation....all no big deal when you love somebody.  I think the question to ponder is at what point will you not want to follow this girl (or her family or beliefs), and what will happen at that point; will she follow you?  If she does not, then how will you feel? Will there be resentment when she does not follow, and perhaps refuses other things in the future, or increases her demands for you to change even more?  If there is the slightest chance of "resentment "when she does not follow you then i believe at that point there will be major trouble.  The old "look what I have given up for you....why will you not give up something for me" problem.  It seems that you are willing to just "go along" for love.  But is there a point when you will not want to go along any more?  I think several others have asked you to look forward to the chance of children in the marriage.  How will you feel when your daughter has to wear tons of hot clothes at the beach, cannot eat all sorts of great food (like bacon, and chops, and ribs, etc).   How will you feel when she has to refuse dating and has to lay out a bunch of rules before someone can date or marry her?  Will you ask your children to just "go along"  just live a lifestyle that really is outdated and makes no sense in many ways to you.  What will you say to your children?  And what will you do when they want to go in another direction (perhaps in the direction you were raised).  It appears that you do have a mind of your own because some posters are saying straight out to dump her, end it, run away;  and you are not listening to them.  So listen to that voice inside that had you post this question in the first place.  Because one day in the future your independent mind may get tired of following a direction that just does not make sense to your logic, your upbringing, your common sense.  Then you will ask why you did not listen to the advice on this forum.  I think a few have said it.  You have been warned.   Start thinking my friend. I am not going to bore you with my stories or own personal experience, but let me say that I have read lots of advice on these forums.....and they saved me from myself many times, and led me in the right direction of thinking many times.   Good luck to you.   The best news is this is thailand....a great new exciting girlfriend can be found in 24 hours.  There are differences in every relationship. that is the beauty of love.  Please do not construe my comments as being negative towards this particular religion.  My arguments can be applied to any truly major difference in ways of thinking; be they religious or political.  Perhaps just ask yourself how you would feel if you had to convert from capitalist to communist, and ask your children to do the same.  Or ask yourself "how much can I just go along and follow the other person before I will be unhappy"...that will give you your answer.

thanks everybody.   I just found out from the light manufacturer that their installation instructions clearly state that a metre and a half of extra wire should be wound arount the light base.....so just have to unscrew the fixture and raise to the surface. EXCEPT..... my pool company did not leave any extra wire....plus used silicone to attach the light to the tiles......the screw holes remain unused.
Next step?????
They want to put holes in the deck....dig down and add more wire to a new junction box.     Is this the best idea?

Ok  Thanks for the replies.   I suppose I figured that when the contract said final payment when pool finished, that there would be water in it (with chemicals).   Instead I guess in Thailand the pool opening party is BYOW....bring your own water.  Something else to have a good laugh about
lol