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  1. @OneMoreFarang @BobBKK @sanemax Children and step-children are abused and sexually abused by parents and step-parents all over the world. As is the case worldwide, only a fraction of cases are reported. I would not be surprised if due to poverty, education levels, policing, and poor child welfare infrastructure, the problem of under-reporting was higher in Thailand than in Western countries. But it is important to point out that under-reporting doesn't necessarily mean that incest or sexual abuse involving minors is more tolerated in Thai society than elsewhere. If the suggestion is being made that sexual abuse or incest is more tolerated here than in other countries, I would question the basis for that assertion. In Thailand reports of abuse and sexual abuse committed by Thai parents and step-parents appear in the Thai media fairly regularly and are almost always treated as deserving of strong condemnation. Any women you have talked to about this subject are in all likelihood relying heavily on these same news reports to form their opinions, rather than speaking from direct first hand experience. While some Thai men probably clearly do harbor such fantasies, I seriously question whether the average lay person would be in a position to accurately quantify the number as "a lot." The idea that other than in extremely isolated cases Thai women permit their daughters to be raped by step-fathers is outrageous misinformation.
  2. Interesting analysis of legal flaws in the NDA, but, given the payment of consideration, signature of two parties to the agreement, etc., remain unconvinced that DT has forfeited the opportunity to correct these mistakes before contract is declared unenforceable, Certainly starting to sound like DT has a strong legal malpractice case against Cohen, though. Looking forward to hearing what judge has to say.
  3. http://klauerlaw.com/2015/11/28/the-formation-of-a-contract-without-both-partys-signature/ Edit: additional reference: https://www.lexology.com/library/detail.aspx?g=93898089-0687-4bda-9119-ffd520748ea7
  4. I'm not a lawyer, but I play one on Thai Visa Forum. As much as I am hoping for all the salacious details to come to light, from a legal standpoint I think Stormy Daniels is on thin ice. By acceptance of the consideration of $130K and her signing of the NDA she clearly agreed to the terms of the agreement. Her acceptance of the $130K also created a reasonable expectation on the part of DT that the agreement would be abided by. I think most courts would find that the contractual defect of Trump not signing the agreement is a correctable defect which would not void the contract, especially because the shell corporation (representing DT's interests) signed the agreement as well.
  5. I was just trying to illustrate that there are more unknowns when you're dealing with step-kids. Was just giving the OP things to consider, not a background security clearance checklist. By the way, while renting will probably always be an option, the idea that there's an endless supply of available women who have never had children is somewhat debatable, especially as one gets older. Wikipedia says the average age for Thai females to marry is 21 [2010] and mean age at time of first birth is 23 [2013]. Thais, especially in the countryside, tend to start families earlier in life than in the West. So if a foreign guy in his late 30's to early 60's, after reading the many posts which scorn women with children, thinks there will be scores of bare-breasted childless women wading out into the surf to greet their arrival on the HMS Bounty, they may be in for a disappointment. Earlier you sounded genuinely perplexed as to why anyone would ever marry someone with kids from a prior relationship, so I'll try to answer your question. Some people like the home environment that kids bring. Some guys never had kids of their own, think it's too late in life to start a new family, so the next best thing is being a step-parent. Some think being around young people keeps them young, provides a sense of purpose, and - if it turns out well - a sense of fulfillment.
  6. I've always been very receptive towards women with children from a prior marriage. After you get to a certain age, do you really have much choice? If you exclude everyone who has had children from a prior marriage what are you left with? Infertile, unattractive, old maids? Pathetically chasing after girls young enough to be your grand daughter? But with that said, the truth is that in Thailand there are more risks associated with becoming a step-parent than you would likely encounter back home, and more caution is warranted. Let's say for purposes of discussion you're involved with a girl from a village who has children from a prior relationship. We'll leave the discussion of where you met this girl for another day. Chances are the father of her children was her childhood sweetheart from the local area. What happened to him? Is he in prison? Did he die prematurely from drug addiction, alcoholism, suicide, an at-fault accident? Did he have any traits like low intelligence, a mood disorder, impulsiveness, hot-headedness, or criminal inclination that contributed to his early demise or imprisonment? Have any of those traits been passed onto his offspring? Sure, some hidden personality disorder could emerge down the road with step-kids anywhere. Doesn't matter whether you're here or in the West. But in Thailand, there are more unknowns, less information is available. Chances are you're not going to meet the biological father, or be able to review medical and school records, or interview people who know the child's history. In many cases, at least early on, even having a meaningful conversation with the child might be a struggle. Because of all the language, logistical (travel), and cultural barriers (expectations of what the role of the father even is), the unknowns are higher in Thailand than they would be in your home country and a good understanding of the situation you are getting yourself into is going to take a longer time to develop. For these reasons, taking extra time and being more cautious is well-advised.
  7. New culture, new country, new wife, new step kids, probably no Thai language skills, maybe retiring? So many unknowns. Overall impression is that you are newbie clueless about the situation you are wading into. Play it by ear, but keep options open. Not saying: 'Run, Forrest, run', but definitely need to tap the brakes. Hard. Delay marriage after moving here for minimum two years, indefinitely, if you can swing it. Don't believe for a moment wife is under any social pressure to get married. That's a bunch of hoo-ey. She's older, already been married, and has had kids. She's under no social pressure to get married right away. Biggest fear I would have about the kids is son ends up vegetating at home (doesn't sound likely), or daughter gets knocked up and she, boyfriend, and new kid move in long-term, or single parent daughter dumps grandchild in your and her mother's lap. Wife's response "We'll talk about it" when asked about where kids will be living is weird. If it sounds evasive, that's because it is. Bottom line? Give yourself plenty of time to make sure you know what you're getting yourself into.
  8. No doubt Trump is going to put on a charm offensive between now and November, but the people have already come to realize the Emperor has no clothes. Disregard for the truth helped get him elected; the ensuing lack of credibility will be his undoing. He's going to discover no one buys that he's turned over a new leaf. In November the Republican party is going to learn just how desperately people want out of Trumplandia.
  9. Shouldn't the tourist police be protecting tourists? How about brochures and flyers educating foreign men about marriage scams, marital property scams, sin sot scams, land scams, water buffalo scams? A few changes in marriage law and land law could reduce incentives to marry under false pretenses for financial gain by 90%, but the authorities turn a blind eye because it's too lucrative and it's foreigners not Thais being taken advantage of. By the way, who cares what the scam artist's skin color is? A scam is a scam. Would the middle-aged Thai lady feel better knowing she was ripped off by a white guy? [Edited to conform to forum rules]
  10. The frustration, anger, pain and humiliation in Tillerson's voice during his press conference spoke volumes about what a hellish experience working in the Trump White House must be. The final nail in the coffin for Trump's laughable claims that he is able to attract the highest quality people into his administration.
  11. A little more neighbor friendly wording might be: ห้ามเข้าโดยไม่มีอนุยาต Do not enter without permission (Entry forbidden without permission)
  12. For those interested in this subject, below article looks very interesting:
  13. Why was the ancient rate of technological and political development fastest in Eurasia, slower in the Americas (and in Africa south of the Sahara) and slowest in Australia. For example, in 1492 much of the population of Eurasia used iron tools, had writing and agriculture, had large centralized states with oceangoing ships, and was on the verge of industrialization. The Americas had agriculture, only a few large centralized states, writing in only one area, and no oceangoing ships or iron tools, and they were technologically and politically a few thousand years behind Eurasia. Australia lacked agriculture, writing, states, and ships, was still in a pre-first contact condition, and used stone tools comparable to ones made over ten thousand years earlier in Eurasia. It was those technological and political differences - not the biological differences determing the outcome of competition among animal populations - that permitted Europeans to expand to other continents. Nineteeth-century Europeans had a simple, racist answer to such questions. They concluded that they acquired their cultural head start through being inherently more intelligent, and that they therefore had a manifest destiny to conquer, displace, or kill "inferior" peoples. The trouble with this answer is that it is not just loathsome and arrogant, but also wrong. It's obvious that people differ enormously in the knowledge they acquire, depending on their circumstances as they grow up. But no convincing evidence of genetic differences in mental ability among peoples has been found, despite much effort. -- Jared Diamond, The Third Chimpanzee, The Evolution and Future of the Human Animal
  14. Directory of Thai government child and family welfare offices: http://gphone.prd.go.th/dp.php?MID=17&DID=108
  15. *AFLAC is an insurance company with a 55+ target market. Their mascot is a talking duck which loudly quacks out the company name in their commercials. The spelling AFLAC was changed to AFRAC as a joke to reflect how Thais sometimes switch l's and r's in their pronunciation. I know, I know, thanks for the explanation, but still not funny. Just didn't want anyone thinking I was losing my mind.