Jump to content
BANGKOK 22 October 2018 23:40


Advanced Members
  • Content Count

  • Joined

  • Last visited

Community Reputation

6,762 Excellent

About Thakkar

  • Rank
    Sometimes I 'member, sometimes I forget.

Recent Profile Visitors

10,605 profile views
  1. When I say all these GOP senators should be “hanged, drawn, and quartered” — I am of course talking about the famous drinking game. It’s like Quarters, but with “pitchforks.” Some boofing may be involved. The rules are fluid.
  2. I agree that “every little thing” should not be dredged up. For example, in the case of Al Franken. I didn’t agree with his being forced to resign, but accepted it quickly as collateral damage because the otherwise legitimate but nascent “me too” movement needed all the support it could get. I might have felt different if the one being accused was me, but it wasn’t. At the time, I said this: “The larger issue unfolding is not just about the relative severity of the sexual harassment, or debasement of the other. It is an exposé of abusive power dynamics. In all instances, whether Franken, Roy Moore or Kevin Spacey or others (though, like you, I am loath to lump them all together, because that framing implies a reduction in severity of the latter two, or conversely, a greater, perhaps undeserved severity for the former) it is a situation of a more powerful person abusing their position to disrespect the personal space, wants, feelings of the less powerful. What’s happening is that that kind of abuse of power is going to be less tolerated by individuals, and by society at large. As this plays out, there will undoubtedly be collateral damage, and people who may deserve a slap on the wrist may be punished more harshly by society than they deserve. That’s unfortunate and is in the nature of big societal shifts. But all people with lesser power will be less vulnerable than they once were. That’s progress.” What Cosby did wasn’t “a little thing.” He repeatedly drugged and sexually abused women while they were inebriated as a result of his surreptitious drugging. It’s right that, albeit belated, he got his comeuppance. When people say why it’s necessary to dredge up old crimes, I’m reminded of this quote: “In keeping silent about evil, in burying it so deep within us that no sign of it appears on the surface, we are implanting it, and it will rise up a thousand fold in the future. When we neither punish nor reproach evildoers, we are not simply protecting their trivial old age, we are thereby ripping the foundations of justice from beneath new generations.” - Aleksandr Solzhenitsyn in The Gulag Archipelago.
  3. You and your friends also have my sympathies. But personal anecdotes aside, and getting back on topic, there is no evidence to show, as some have suggested, that women are devious creatures who are prone to concocting assault stories for some kind of personal gain, be it revenge or monetary. On the contrary, there is a plethora of evidence, from around the world, that the vast majority of assaults go unreported—ever, let alone years later. Of those that *do* get reported, 93 to 98 percent turn out to be true. ++ When I discuss things with my children, who are very young adults, I see a very different world. For now, the patriarchy survives—but only till my generation dies out. I look at my kids and their friends—who’ve also become my friends—and see through their eyes, I am heartened at the more equal, more compassionate world they are already creating.
  4. Again, assuming you speak from some kind of personal experience, you have my sympathies.
  5. It’s true. Men in long term loving relationships with strong, independent women tend not have the kind of experiences you seem to have had. My sympathies.
  6. Nice parody account you got there, imitating an 18th century patriarchal blowhard character from a Jane Austin novel who Austin edited out for being too absurd.
  7. Yeah! The only people who really care about Thailand are retired Westerners and Western digital nomads and Western tourists and Western businesspeople.
  8. Are you saying Dr Ford was prepared with her accusation against Kavanaugh since Nov 2016 when Trump’s list of potential nominees was announced?
  9. Signed declaration from a third victim under penalty of perjury. Sharp, clear concise:
  10. Your logic would be faulty. Sexual abusers are often *serial* sexual abusers. If they were doing it two decades ago and have been getting away with it, it’s likely they are still doing it. Research from around the world shows that the vast majority of women, even in more equal societies (let alone highly patriarchal ones) do not report sexual abuse. Reasons range from fear and shame to discouragement and sheer lack of opportunity. From The American Psychological Association: “Sexual assault is likely the most under-reported crime in the United States. About two-thirds of female sexual assault victims do not report to the police, and many victims do not tell anyone. Sexual assault is a terrifying and humiliating experience. Women choose not to report for a variety of reasons — fear for their safety, being in shock, fear of not being believed, feeling embarrassed or ashamed, or expecting to be blamed. “ Of the cases that do get reported, 93 to 98% prove to be valid. http://www.apa.org/news/press/releases/2018/09/report-sexual-assault.aspx?platform=hootsuite
  11. Because sexual assault is not about sex, but about violence, dominion and control. Cosby’s kind of behavior has not been diagnosed as a mental illness. It is however sick (and sickening) behavior.
  12. I believe the ones he was actually convicted on were much more recent. He got a fair trial, a series of appeals, and reasonable rejection of those appeals. There is little doubt thatbhe is guilty of the chrages brought against him. Whether he is also guilty of the many, many other allegations against him, we can’t know for sure, but it seems pretty likely as the pattern described by the victims have been very consistent. He was a comedic genius who inspired many comedians. He was also a monster, as we have now learned.
  13. I suppise the disgruntled painter had no more F’s to give.