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  1. Engagement and sin sod

    I used to see it as something like a bar fine. But now I just see it as a ridiculous practice to keep class structures together. The poor will never be able to afford the rich. Even Thai society is slowly starting to move forward, so yes, many do not worry about sin sord anymore. Rural/more cultural areas may worry about the actual ceremony, but should not actually keep the money in 2017 (especially if farang as should compromise on culture). It's no surprise that education, family name, career, previous relationships etc are the criteria. Even if people do pay sin sord, which is completely fine as it is their lives after all, if you do it for 'cultural' reasons then surely you should go by the same criteria as a Thai man would. So if a non educated woman, with previously relationship and no real job is asking for big money in Thai terms, then alarm bells should probably ring. But again, some people like to give and that's fine, but you're not giving for sin sord or any cultural reason, you're just giving in general. Personally, I know a few Thai guys in a lot of debt from previous marriages purely due to sin sord. I also know many who cannot commit to marry yet as they don't have sin sord. Families see these issues as stupid these days, hence the gradual shift away from sin sord. I think if a discussion can't even be had to not do sin sord in 2017 it probably rings alarm bells. More and more people are not doing it and their are full proof ways around it in all areas (ie marry in a church). Most working Thai women will tell your it's their responsibility to look after their parents, you have your own parents to look after.
  2. Gov. Hospital Exp/Rant

    Khon Kaen Hospital isn't too bad. The clinic doctors are obviously in training so not much better than the doctors in any hospital clinic, but the specialists are pretty good. Quite comfortable if you admit also with doctors on the wards who constantly keep you up to date on what is happening. The after hours clinic is useful also. Specialists there seem to go out of their way though, I had an infection specialist on his way home, come back just to book some tests for me as he knew I didn't live in Khon Kaen. Also one test form wasn't completed so the people withdrawing my blood had to call the specialist, and they all remember you being a farang so could give permission over the phone to test for extra things (otherwise would have had to come back another day). Even many months later, the doctors remember you and ask how you are in passing. A couple of others seemed to show real care and took a good 20 minutes to discuss everything, rather than just treating you as another number. On the flip side my province government hospital isn't great (no university attached to it), and priorities are a big thing. For priorities to exist, morals have to be thrown out the window. So basically, if you know someone you will get a queue number between 1-10 and can arrive at 9, and be out by 9:30. If you don't know anyone, you arrive early morning and will be waiting til 3pm with hundreds of other people until you get checked out by the doctor. By that time, the check will be all of 2 minutes and you may have to remind the doctor that they need to actually examine you, rather than just read what the nurse wrote down. Also disgusting toilets. So, of course, it can be hard to stay moral in such conditions. Our bigger private hospital is hit and miss. One great baby doctor who even helps us out contacting different specialists/discussing CT results with other hospitals on her days off (who is the family GP now, who also volunteers at the government hospital). Also another totally useless baby doctor works there. Similar with adult doctors, very hit and miss.
  3. Engagement and sin sod

    She is a nurse, so possibly an official. If marry then free health cover for OP, she can get her own loans, and get a pension until she dies. Even if not an official, the middle class often will not continue the relationship if it isn't going anywhere, ie no chance of ever marrying in the future. They make their own money, so they see it more as a friends with benefits rather than making it an a real type thing. Her age isn't relevant to sin sord as she is educated, has a job and is middle class. So in terms of a Thai guy, he would still be paying sin sord. My Thai uncle is about to marry a 42 year old official, the parents don't want it so will give it back but they still will go through the ceremony due to her job. He should not pay purely due to a compromise of cultures, give in to some beliefs and not others. Not because people think make ignorant generalisations that Isaan people are girls who all had teen pregnancies.
  4. Engagement and sin sod

    There are various forums and also many Facebook pages purely about everything farang for Thai women. I dont know the names as I don't use them, but the Mrs has shown me many/wouldn't be hard to find. Things like general advice/experiences, how much money partner gives each month, which country is best to marry in terms of personality, similar topics and ridiculous generalisations just like this forum lol. There are even pages that women can post photos of their partners or guys they are thinking about entering a relationship with to check if they are really single or not.
  5. Low platelet count can be an indicator the dog is in sub-clinical Ehrlichia/Anaplasma phase (which can last for a long time before it turns chronic or the dog can eliminate it). Elevated liver counts can also be a result of using too much Doxy (up to 40% of treated dogs can have this problem according to the University of Pennsylvania). So similar to what your vets said. Coinfections are quite common with Ehrlichia/Anaplasma unfortunately, so makes treating and diagnosing even harder. Especially as many areas in Thai don't have the tests on hand sometimes. Usually sub-clinical phase has no symptoms, so are the symptoms a result of the Hepatozoon or Babesia? Or is the dog in the acute phase of a new Ehrlichia/Anaplasma and the symptoms are a result of that? I would have thought if the dog was in the chronic phase (same symptoms as the acute phase), then the bloods wouldn't be as good as they are. Are the bacteria resistant to antibiotics now (Thailand is known for antibiotic resistant bacteria)? Some dogs will be weaker in terms of this than other dogs. So many variable is probably why it is so hard for your vets (and impossible for us), as the dog has so many diseases that they are not sure what is actually causing what, and at what stage is each disease at so they aren't 100% sure on treatment. All have similar non-specific symptoms. In saying all that, reinfection WILL happen with no proper parasite control. The previous poster had, was it 4 tick diseases already in the one dog with spot ons? Controline or Cleartix I would NOT be using in Thailand, as I just don't think spot ons work to a level sufficient enough to prevent disease. Back home, they are fine, more than fine actually...but they just don't cut it here. That is why I kinda got a bit annoyed when I first joined this forum, and I am sure you all got annoyed at me also as I was coming from a whole different approach to what you all had been doing - but I could see what was going to happen in the future if continue down this line. The different members stories of continual uses of spot ons, weekly baths with chemicals, trimming the dogs coat, spraying dangerous/cancer causing agents around the place, crap food, over vaccinating, god knows what else were all setting the dog up to get sick as their immune systems are running on 2 cylinders. A healthy dog should be able to pass Anaplasma/Ehrlichiosis by itself in most cases even without Doxy, but it shouldn't have to if it has proper parasite treatment. Your case is so hard now, and i do feel sorry for the dog, the vets and you. But get on better tick control. Ignore the fear mongering campaigns, as right now the chance of a tick killing your dog is so much higher than the chance of Bravecto or NexGuard killing it. I hate it when people say 'TIT', but in this particular case it is justified. This is Thailand, soft treatments we are used to do not work to the level we need them to here in many places.
  6. Babesia comes from ticks. A Mahidol University paper written, from memory, a decade ago claimed that Rickettsia and perhaps Babesia would be the two tick borne diseases that will threaten pets and humans in the future in Thai. I think it is a cousin of Malaria. So even when treated it usually comes back. So some pretty chronic diseases the poor boy has, that is why it is important to at least prevent the Ehrlichia/Anaplasma.
  7. I think for a Husky, I would get off the spot on and use the more serious drugs - Bravecto (like any treatment, watch for side effects). Huskies don't weigh that much so will only cost 750 baht every 3 months. I have to pay 3,000 for 3 months as Thailand doesn't include the 40-56kg in their range for some reason. Although it isn't great using a strong drug on a sick dog, the only other option is to let the dog keep on getting infected so it is the lesser evil in my eyes. Spot ons are usually low 90s% in terms of effectiveness whereas the stronger drugs are high 90s%. 5% is nothing back home, but it makes a huge difference here as the % of ticks actually carrying diseases is so much higher. Did the vet have an idea whether it was an acute or chronic stage of Ehrlichia/Anaplasma? Where did you get the test done for Babesia? Both acute and chronic ehrlichia have similar symptoms so it is hard to distinguish. If it is the acute phase then the dog should respond to the treatment - so he must just keep on getting re-infected if tests keep coming back positive. If the chronic phase, well then not much you can do. Can treat the dog but the prognosis is very poor. If has Babesia and Hepatozoon and keeps on getting other infections then symptoms will obviously be worse. Both those diseases are difficult to impossible to get rid of in many dogs. If my dog, I would switch to better parasite treatment. Treat him for the ehrlicha/anaplasma, make sure his diet is good to resist the infections or help pass them through naturally and hope for the best. Not much you can do with Hepatozoon/Babesia if it keeps coming back, but it is important not to let other infections arise as his immune system would be battling with hep/babesia. Would be very careful of your contact with the dog, so be careful if search for ticks, fluids etc. Wear gloves when searching, check yourself and home regularly. I had an initial diagnoses of Rickettsia from Khon Kaen hospital in April this year. The infection passed, but to this day I struggle with my health, so got in contact with a Rickettsia research lab back home (who also do work in Thai) who have suggested I test for antibodies based on my current symptoms in discussion with my doctor. That was from getting tick blood all over my hands from looking for ticks on the in laws dog who had tested positive to Ehrlichiosis.
  8. What parasite treatment is he on? Can't remember if I have asked that before. Spot on treatments, like your Frontline, I find don't work well in Thai, especially for the bigger dogs (I only use them on puppies less than 6-9 months). So he could just be continually getting re infected, as he returns to the same environment (home). From memory, it was up to a quarter of ticks in some places in Thai that carry diseases. Mine are due for blood tests next month. The CO last time had gone through 14 months of life no infections, so this will be 20 months if come back clean. Although I pushed the Bravecto to 4 months (as it is a strong pesticide) this time round to give her body a break so will be interesting to see if it can be pushed that long or not.
  9. why do they want to burn everything

    Village people should have been educated on the dangers of burning not only plastic. but leaves, trees etc numerous times by now. Not only should have they been educated at local conferences, but it should have been repeated over loud speakers, and also various educational days where the public health officials train the villagers on what other uses they can use their waste for. Example. mulch, recyclables etc. I personally think the whole issue has two aspects to it. One, a way of thinking. We have done this forever, it is easy, why change? Two, the way the system is set up. Local officials cannot fine, they need approval from the Mayor and then the police act on the fining. The Mayor will rarely approve a fine for this as he will lose the house votes, and all their various cousins votes. Police find cases like this a waste of time. A fining system needs to be created that is not linked back to an election. Plus, the community would benefit, think of how much the Tessaban could save in fines to spend on creating more recreational activities for the young, elderly etc. Also as it stands now, Tessabans are limited in what they can do re rubbish. 30 baht a month covers nothing. There was talk to increasing this to 150 baht per month, and some Tessabans did. However, it is political suicide for many other Mayors. Many Tessabans even need to stop paying the small pension to the elderly to cover things like this. Tribunals have been set up for people who cannot handle neighbours burning off daily by the Army government, but many uneducated people are unaware of this. No easy short term easy fix unfortunately. So do what you can, at least make your immediate living areas relatively smoke free.
  10. Engagement and sin sod

    More and more families today are happy to bypass sin sord all together (or at the very least, return it). This sometimes results from the newer generation daughter reading about sin sord as a cause of conflict or a deal breaker for other Thai/Western couples, and explaining this to her family. Thai women have their various forums to talk about farang, just like we do on ThaiVisa. It is easy to get around sin sord in terms of the actual wedding and pleasing those who care about it. Just have the morning ceremony in a church (whether religious or not) and spread a rumour about a sin sord amount that was 'supposedly' paid. We did it, and other Thai friends have done the same to avoid sin sord as they too see it as ridiculous in modern society. It is also a good start to learning how to make compromises on the two cultures/thinking. For example, our first child had a baby ceremony. I saw how ridiculous it was having dirty money put all over her and 100s of people breathing all over her at a young age and now the family have agreed with me and said our second child will not have one. If you just give, give, give and never stand up for your own beliefs then you will end up another bitter member on ThaiVisa lol. Has nothing to do with being cheap. Plus, gives a pretty clear message that the farang will never be an ATM machine for the family members who may not be so naturally loving. She seems like a good sort with a good job/education so have a very open/calm discussion about it. Of course, others are 'completely happy' to be ATM machines and that is completely okay also.
  11. Tick Bite on Cat

    If a big tick I would be wary regardless of the Frontline. Being big, you would assume it is an adult. Which means it has had 3 or so hosts before your cat (as ticks like a different host per stage of life). Just remember to check the cats blood every 6 months here in Thai. Hopefully the sore is just a reaction to the tick saliva. Would watch the cat extremely closely for symptoms though. Try not to look at taking it to the vet as traumatising it. Try and look at is as desensitising it for when it really does need to go. For example, ASPCA Animal Behaviour Center recommend taking a cat to the vet once or twice a week, not to be checked, but to get it used to going. We take our new puppy every month to get his spot on purely for the socialisation aspect.
  12. What can happen is that many parents also do not want to send their kids on the trips. However, some schools will tell them the student will be down graded because of this. Other parents just either have no common sense, education, or just don't have the time of day to think about possible consequences. End of the day, Thai is one of the most dangerous roads in the world, the trips are painfully long, the bus drivers are not well trained/tired, and what do the kids actually learn from many of these trips? How to take a photo of the teachers. From what I hear from the sister-in-law who is a teacher at a private school - many parents will not allow the kids to go on the trip and the school hires a police car for the bus to follow.
  13. Lots of concerns re the event, lots of concerns re Thai roads (and all rightfully so). But, on the next thread it will be ''I love Thailand because my home country is a nanny state". Go figure.
  14. Any actual punishment though? If they were arrested, but later released without punishment then no double standard. Article doesn't include a punishment.
  15. Bringing up children in Thailand or UK? Safety?

    I am 28 years old. I have one daughter (18 months) and will have a son born in the next few months. Forward planning I think is the key to make life successful here. I am luckier than some in the sense all health care is free for my children and I, government education is free until they finish their bachelor, and private/international education is at a significantly reduced price. Before schooling, I was lucky also that the local brand new 'free' nursery is staffed by some family members, and I can manipulate the safety of it (re teachers, security) as the Mayor (boss), is the children's grandfather. So someone cannot just go in and claim they have been told to pick up the farang kid (as happened with one Thai child in a primary school earlier this year - to be put in the begging trade). Also the nursery is directly opposite the wife's office. Surely, if deciding to bring up the kids in Thailand, you will educate them about how to cross a road. If they are of an age where complete comprehension is not there, then they should be supervised whilst crossing anyway (not walking about alone). Education is something that people need to be focused on. Usually the bigger schools (not even private) in the cities have their top two classes that the teachers do focus most of their attention on. These classes are where your doctors, lawyers, pharmacists, officials, business people etc come from. If your child is naturally bright enough to be in one of those classes, then really some outside work based around critical thinking, and more general knowledge is all that is needed to get into one of the top 5 universities in the country. A lot of that will come with day to day living with your child, the shows you choose to watch, books you choose to read etc. My Thai family and their relevant friends were all in those top two classes and all have professional careers now. Whereas the students not in those two classes are the secretaries (lower salaries). We all know teachers back home, so periodically test your children based on the curriculum back home to make sure they are of a good enough standard if they decide to move themselves when older. It is probably important to be a little more involved in your child's life here, rather than just relying on the government providing everything. Having said that, if your child is happy and wants to go down a completely different path not needing an education then great, but we should at least give them the opportunities to have those choices. *Make it clear to the school from the beginning that the kid will not be touched by a teacher. The schools worth sending the kids to usually know farang are a bit more strict about this than Thai families. I think dropping and picking the kid up from school is a must, and obviously have a designated area where the child must wait - near security/teachers (which I even had back home growing up). In terms of general safety after school, then really people need to set up their own environment to make that a success. So for us, we have a bit of land patrolled by two giant working breed dogs who love our daughter. Gates are always closed for the safety of us (people/soi dogs not coming in), but also the safety of others also (our working breed dogs not going out). We also have fenced off play/eating areas away from the dogs for friends/cousins to visit in the future (socialisation). Also socialisation and safety can come in the form of extra curriculum activities. So learning instruments, sports, the odd tutoring work etc. It will also make sure your children are hanging around other like minded families, rather than the local drop outs. What I like, is the children will grow up in a community that shows just how tough life can be, so those morals of treating people equally regardless of their circumstances will be there on our evening walks around the village (3km from city). Whereas during the day, they will get a higher standard of living obviously to set them up in life. Generally speaking, of course a developed country will have a better health/education system and will be safer. However, developing countries are that bit easier to manipulate to get the best for your specific child, which can sometimes open up doors for more opportunities.