Trying to post this here as I didn't find a better place.
I have found a girl here in Thaland and want to get engaged to her.
For reasons of mother in law we have decided to do this cos of different things (not important).
A couple of days later my girlfriend came to me and asked for sin sod. I have heard that this is for marriage only and not for engagement.
I said I am not willing to pay any sin sod when we get engaged, but will pay sin sod when we get married. I have the money and I'm willing to do it if/when we get married.
It was ok for my girlfriend that i didn't pay anything when we get engaged. I only have to buy 2 rings, 1 for her and 1 for me.
The question then was if I could show 100k for her mother (father is dead) in the engagement ceremony. Then I would get the money back when the ceremony was over.
I should not pay anything now.
My girlfriend is a 37 years old middleclass girl from Isaan working as a nurse without mastersdegree. She is working on her master now.
She has never been married and don't have any kids. If/when we get married she wants me to move in with her and her mum and her niese. Her mum is not working, but taking care of the house at home.
I don't know how much she will ask in sin sod, but said that 100k is part of it.
She wants me to show the money for all present during the ceremony.
Should I show them the money or not?