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  1. New Restricted Forum for Women Only

    Hi I guess I'm here?
  2. Dog Died.

    rabies comes to mind; prevalant in thailand, husband's father's dog had rabies when we were visiting last year... it bit someone, husband's father shot the dog and the bitten person went and got series of rabies vaccines. the dog was prowling and moving constantly, and acting very wierd... rabid animals in general dont lay donw and act sick rather move around, due to intense discomfort , lack of muscle control (swallowing, drinking, hence the term hydrophobia)... not saying its , but certainly could be if not vaccinated in the past two /three years by the thai vets that come around to vaccinate.
  3. Phin guitar - DIY project

    https://www.facebook.com/ethengthai korat phin maker and master musician
  4. Sheep farm dog

    Just thought I'd share my thoughts. ..sheep herded dogs have distinctive DNA traits including OCD which in pets can cause problems such as a aussie shepherds having to herd chairs around a table or other herding activities even when not used as working dogs as for thai hunting dogs _dime a dozen in issan villages...used to scent out sight down and grab any prey not specialized as European or American hunting types. ..FIL has an entire pack ...live in yard fed ivermec'd and mostly vaccinated although last year one attacked family friend while i and hubby visited (wasn't allowed to walk in yard atnight until said dogs disappeared as one did display neurological problems)acted weird so person received rabies vaccine series at local clinic and two dogs were dispatched to doggy heaven... the dingo and thai Ridgeback and other primitive dogs might share DNA sheep guard dogs are more likely what the OP NEEDS and a thai village dog or two raised as pups with the sheep will 100%do the job...speaking from experience here
  5. hi, i can tell u that after 7 years of marriage (im american/israel, married to korat village thai guy, with israeli citizenship finally), i am still the financial advisor in my family; husband doesnt ahve a credit card as he hasnt a clue how to manage money that he 'doesnt see'... i.e. money in the bank, long term payments, returning loans, etc are not his forte. in thailand the banks for villagers work a bit differently, and if ther eare financial problems they sell /loan out the land/house/car. well, here in israel if the bank doesnt get its money every month then u are facing many problems... therefore, i do the money managment, and he earns the money (i am a kibbutznik which drives him nuts as i dont earn money but do get an apartment, and many benefits... long story): he works in tel aviv 5\6 days a week, 12 hours a day in thai restaraunt, comes home on friday saturday, sleeps to catch up on lost hours, putters around the house and fixes stuff, and goes back to work on sunday. from his money he now takes out a certain amount to send home for house/parents/lotto whatever, and i dont ask him as the first five years his minimam wage went to paying rent to kibbutz and us and there wasnt enough for saving to build house etc. thai village men for the most part very much want/need/must have house/land and money that they use for their own purposes, and also mostly feel they must support the family (wife/and or parents). my husband has refused taking money from me (from my parents/kibbutz related). my husband , although aware of the benefits of financial planning desnt seem to be able to implement it. we want to save for future (restaraunt/live off kibbutz whatever) but when i remind him that we cannot buy a car and save at same time, his answer is then fine, if we dont have money for xxx then we dont need to buy xxx. when we ahve money we can use it. if we dont then we will make do. that is very different to how i was raised/taught. i have a sort of safety net in the kibbutz living situation howver if i were to have mutual children with him, i would find that attitude prolematic. village thais will use an entire cash sum to buy something and then if there is an emergency there is no money saved up for backup. if family has emergency, money is lent or given . thai viallge men with no skills will find it difficult to find worthwhile lucrative jobs unless they work overseas or sometmies far from home. this is my second marriage, and i am willing to (at the moment) havew my husband live away from me to earn our keep, but like i sais, i have kids from previous marriage, am busy with my own work, hobbies et c on kibbutz, and he feels secure that i am 'taken care of' if there are problems. it sounds like u have questions, and if u are thinking about kids, and are the type that gets nervous if ther eis no money for doctors/food/housing/whatever, u might want to rethink this. when my husband was unemployed he stayed at home, fixed things, slept etc ; but his friends did make comments about him not 'taking care' of me etc. ; also, the longer he was unemployed the more lazed around and had less motivation to get up and out... but when he works, he is a very very hard worker and puts work and money making above 'being a couple and doing couple things' (here in israel our lifestyle draws a huge amount of criticism as here,being a couple is more important than makig money at all costs). as for other things, i am educated , he isnt. i was previously married with 3, he has no kids and sometimes ahs problems with the fact that we never did together. in general, thais equate money with love/support of family. contributing in other ways is not always considered. also, regardless, the thai men that ive met and know all seem to feel that women are in charge of households, inclding household finances, and men are out earning the bacon and thats about it. so although he may help around the house, u may be expected to do most of the house stuff even if he isnt working at the present moment. (my husband will do laundry or wash house/he does cook mostly but still considers housework to be a women thing. he also doesnt feel that i should consult him in household purchases, even large summed ones (like buy a dryer finally after 7 years of line drying clothes). but this is my husband. other women here(thai husband/israeli wife) have other experiences. hoever, from the couples that are here in israel, that seems to be the norm , because most of our husbands come from small villages /agricultural way of living as we met them while they were here as migrant workers or restaraunt workers. most women here dont have husbands from the higehr socail classes, although that might change too. a clasic if annoying example: my birthday, and no present. his answer: i give u all the salary, that means i care for you. ... i explain that its not money but thought, therefore i dont care if he gets my a 10 shekel bottle of pink nail polish, its the point. his answer is: in village, we dont give presnets. money=love and concern, so deal. hahah, tomorrow, i have day off, as he does, and he got salary in hand so off to tel aviv to claim a small gift and have a day going to market and movie . again, i am not just the finaancial advisor but also the cultural advisor and meal planner.
  6. charlie h . in israel and among jews all around the world we are in year 5775....
  7. sometimes blood transfusions are given as well... sound like some kind of tick fever to me also.... the best defense against ticks so far here in our mountain is ultra shield spray or seresta tick collar... nothing else works anymore... not sure if those are availabel in thailand but if someone can bring u, they are the best. ultra shield is not for households that have cats that lick dogs, not to be sprayed near cats. the seresta collars are great as well, but here are super expensive. and any of the drops should be used every four weeks against ticks, every two or three months for fleas... we also use seresta collars with frontline plus for flea protection... we are rural and every household has about three dogs and we have feral cats. in israel dog blood banks have been started, maybe someone could start in thailand if there isnt one (only large healthy dogs can be used to give blood, i paid 600 shekels for one pack of blood once for my bitch, it was sent by taxi from a city two hours away from us, donated by a great dane...) as tick fevers cause anemia which often needs the transfusions
  8. Left-handed Thai children?

    my (thia) husband is left handed but i guess in small village was also pushed to be more right handed. the end result, like for many htat were forced to switch, is that he uses both hands, but he also has learning disabilities (only discovered here when he started using computer as in thailand he neither wrote nor read books, and left school at 13)he writes with left hand, cooks with left but also does many things with right like using hair cutting clippers, scissors, hammer, etc... as many kids here were also 'switched' back in 'olden times' (until 1980's), it was noticewd that they had more difficulties in many subjects and in general as 'circuits' were switched rather then developed . OTH many people that suffer sided brain damage can relearn using other side of brain and switch 'handedness'....
  9. knomknom gve some of the best advice ive seen ; i would basically disregard most of the women hating /thai women hating contingency and their remarks... many thai women and many women in general, turn off from sex after having kids/work/worries... long time marriage... sometimes its just a phase. sometimes it really is their way of making you decide to break up... good luck either way...
  10. coffee in Thailand, 3 in 1 sachet....

    hahah.. in israel for 30 years so only drink nescafe or elite powdered 'coffee'... only recently have i seen those straws here, mostly for backpackers etc (mostly because it is a dairy not parve product so for many here that is difficult ) but loved them in thailand as it is impossible to speak with me before a cup of 'coffee' in the morning and it is great for when in hubby's house w/o fridge and i dont really drink real milk anyhow... totally dont like the american style of coffee (drip perculator or pod)... and birdy cold coffee is great wish we had it here...
  11. Kosher Pork from Big C and Tesco!

    have to point out that it isnt just the meat it is any part of the animal; and not just pork but any meat at all... not a funny post, and i am going to close it. if u want to complain about lack of meat to fat content in your shopping whether it is goat pig or cow, then do it an other way....
  12. not sure where u all live but my issan thai husband thinks that we spoil our children here (israel- ihave three now adult children, not his)- and from what i saw in his village, up til about the age of three, children were children. from age 3-4 they became little adults, having to do things around the house, yard, etc. as far as developing creativity, curiousity etc then yes there are cultural differences. also, depending on who is raising the child, remember that if you are working physical labour, then you probably have less patience and energy to actively work with your child; and also many parents in asia consider the school to be the educator /punisher and it is the family's duty to love/clothe/feed the child but nothing beyond that as education comes from the school. this btw is also a mid eastern attitude, i notice it among the arab school kids adn from what their parents discuss with me (they are middle class non educated workers with moderate sized families), it is the teachers who are responsible for educating the child. as far as independance, again, cultural expectations and whose to say what way is better. frankly, all my friends here always thought that the 'american ' style of child rearing that my parents used is 'cold, too strict, not fun, puts the adult before the child' where as here the adult is expected! to put the child first, children play in the salon, go to restaraunts, go basically everyhwere and are heard and seen, and are expected to be coo'd over and petted... i should show a video of our hotel lobby on a friday check in with all the families. americans would have a fit. my husband finds the kids here impolite to adults, dont help with housework, come and go as they please, and he says they treat their parents as throwasay objects to be used as ATM's. so possibly we are talkig about specific social levels, certain areas, local expectations, whatever. its true hoever that the boys are more spoiled in thailand and the girls do more around the house, but i see that here also in spite of the fact that supposedly we are 'european' here, the mid eastern/arab influence still is very strong. its true that 'good' parenting at home could give a child a head start in studies and leadership, howver, there are other aspects of childhood that are equally important, such as familial relationships, peer groups, social interactions within his/her own society. nature+nurture both equally important.
  13. hmmm... the fact that he thinks his mom 'is an angel' and she 'thinks he is the greatest'... well then i hear bells ringing... from other chinese /hong kong families that i know here (middle class christian actually) i understand that although he might be understanding now but when u have children, there maybe much more interferance and 'bowing down' to parental (mother) wishes... chinese moms are similar it seems to what we in israel call 'polish mothers' - the world revolves around their children especially the son/first born, and they are also demanding and controlling ... not to say this family is that way but culture doesn make a difference especially if u will be living close by, and when there are grandkids nearby... for the thai chinese the status and 'nationality' are both important, but as boo pointed out, dress and behavior will help smooth things. the qustion is how much u will want to confrom to their style of things in the future... and how much you are willing to pressure your 'at the moment, compliant' boyfriend when reality of family pressure hits... good luck either way
  14. Source for out of the ordinary pets in Ubon

    all of the above mentioned are wild animals and not pets and therefore you shouldnt be buying them even if they are for sale... a licsense is needed. dogs and cats are beneficial; in issaan most other wild animals will not survive for long in a village as they will end up on someone's plate; if u were really homesteading then of course u would know this...
  15. Baby care help

    yes she can feed the other baby also if she wants to; the more she feeds the more milk she will produce; maybe she will need an extra amount of nutrition either with vitamins or meat/veggies/calcium products if she is not able to provide them due to financial problems. at five months it is possible to start the baby eating small amounts of cooked veggies/or mashed bananas and/or forumula as well... iron is the other thing both the surrogate mom and the baby might need... women have fed other peoples babies ofr thousands of years, and i personally know of two different women who breastfed someone else's baby for long periods of time due to illness of the mother or other problem, so its perfectly acceptable...
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