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1 minute ago, saakura said:

OP, the word  มัน is casually used by Thais when they talk among close friends, it is absolutely not at all insulting. All i read from it is she was mildly complaining to her friend that her husband is jealous. Ok, a university educated lady working in an office may not use this term with her colleagues, but this is simple casual Isaan speak. If all other things are going well, dont break your relation over a simple misunderstanding and regret later.

 

 

Indeed......there will be many others.😊

 

 

Perhaps time to read Thailand Fever.....

 

 

 

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Just now, Jip99 said:

 

 

Indeed......there will be many others.😊

 

 

Perhaps time to read Thailand Fever.....

 

 

 

Been here close to 3 decades and did not ever involve myself with bars or prostitutes, so no need to read such books 

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2 hours ago, idman said:

Sorry but here goes.  If you are stupid enough to continue in this charade of a relationship then be prepared to be made a sucker of by this low life tart.  Man up and walk away while you still have some pride.

Too too true. Charade is the key concept, exemplified in the OP's initial statement. You might think you have a Thai (Isaan) gf, but by the looks of things, you don't. If she was decent, she would be somewhat sensitive to your concerns, even if her late-night chatting with other men was completely innocent. The fact that she's reflexively defensive about behaviour that quite reasonably causes you concern is in itself a red flag. Most likely her commitment, and your relationship itself, is a charade.

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Duh! Why are you putting up with her b's. Move on, so many other women who aren't interested in other men while in a relationship. Sorry, but you're utterly stupid if you stay in your current situation.

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8 minutes ago, jerojero said:

Duh! Why are you putting up with her b's. Move on, so many other women who aren't interested in other men while in a relationship. Sorry, but you're utterly stupid if you stay in your current situation.

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A tad brutal......but I can’t fault the advice.

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The MGTOW crowd have a good saying - She's not your girl, it is just your turn.  :smile:

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why not test her by giving her Wechat info to tv member. If tv member succeeds in banging her you will have the answer. u can also post her pics here and wait for matching pics of her from tv members that have/are banging her.

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2 hours ago, Jip99 said:

Has she shagged any of the men she is talking to ?

Not yet but I'm lining up, and currently 3rd in line..........

(sorry OP but had to respond to a question like that to a hilarious original question!) :burp:

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It always makes me pause when people dish out advice on a situation that they put into a Venn diagram without knowing any detail.

 

There is the saying "if it looks like a duck, quacks like a duck, it's probably a Katoei", which is a probability guess rather than a detailed analysis.

 

I'm not so sure that she's doing anything wrong....yet... but there does appear to be potential to go that way.  OP has more information than any of us have, but counter to that he's also invested, so presumably looking for triangulation of his feeling that 'maybe' something is going on, or at least wants to know if he's being disrespected, as that is certainly what it feels like to him.  Her behaviour is more telling of her history than her future.

 

If we invert the whole story, one thing I sometimes have a bitch about is when I have experiential knowledge of something or other, and the Thai chooses to disregard my opinion in favour of listening to a lot of Thais that know nothing of the subject.  The above case is a lot of farang giving opinion on something that the Thai knows to be fact, and whether guilty of any wrong doing or not, it's likely to push her to abort the relationship where otherwise she might be quite happy.

 

If I talk with other women my Gf isn't in the slightest bit jealous, but then I don't give her reason to be, she's safe with me, even if it's not the most intense relationship and we're not exactly ever going to burn the oceans.  Culturally there's a gulf between us, but a little effort to understand the counter party can go a long way in making that merely an empty spot rather than an issue.

 

As one person above said, perhaps it's worthwhile showing that it makes him a little uncomfortable.  If she doesn't get it, then take her out somewhere and give the staff (preferably female) 1000 baht 'just because'.  When she objects to you giving away 'her' assets like that (and she will), then say "I'm sorry darling, does that make you uncomfortable that I give money to other women?  She's just a friend".

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Well I guess if she has one or two good male friends who are only friends with fingers cross then it should not be problem. But it is a bit wared if she talk to only good friends late night. 

 

Why don't you ask her to invite her good friends home to have a drink together or just invite them out to a restaurant. 

 

Good to know her good friends.

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4 hours ago, Cynical Sailor said:

มัน translates as ‘it’.


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I wouldn't worry too much about the 'it'.  Many languages use the 3rd person singular neuter gender.  ONE does it in English.  In French it is used quite often.

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