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BANGKOK 20 October 2018 05:35
Kenny202

Thai child separation anxiety

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Sounds like the child doesn't feel safe / secure without his mother present. Also sounds like he went quite a while without getting much attention from his mom (living with an Auntie) that he is desperate for her attention/affection now.

 

Maybe try spending more time with everyone all together instead of trying to push the kid aside?

 

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3 hours ago, Get Real said:

If you do not care about the wellfare of children growing up with the safety and kindness of people that really love them, what kind of a human are you then? I know that we have the ones that puts dogs higher than humans in this forum. According to me that´s a bit over the top. Maybe it´s not so amazing for you no more??

 

The most likely scenario is that the child do not need a psychiatrist at all. If he have been negolected and abused before. The thing he now needs is love in a warm, caring and friendly home where he can learn to feel safe. Not a place where people are using the neanderthal methods of disciplin by abusing themselfs.

I'm pointing out the OP did not WANT kids and he will pay and then pay more.  You need to shill out more.

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5 minutes ago, BobBKK said:

I'm pointing out the OP did not WANT kids and he will pay and then pay more.  You need to shill out more.

You said it amazes you that retired people get involved in this. Maybe it´s according to you okey to find a woman to live with but push away the child?

As I see it, he choose to live with a woman that has a child, then he must also be open to live with that part of her.

What´s amazing to you, seems like rather natural to me. 

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5 minutes ago, Get Real said:

You said it amazes you that retired people get involved in this. Maybe it´s according to you okey to find a woman to live with but push away the child?

As I see it, he choose to live with a woman that has a child, then he must also be open to live with that part of her.

What´s amazing to you, seems like rather natural to me. 

You were rude I was not. Leaving that aside it DOES amaze me that people retire here and want to get involved with bringing up a Thai kid that's not there own ok? 

 

Now get your facts straight. He told us he did NOT want to be in a family of 2 kids right?  don't hijack the OP's thread by saying it's 'natural to you' stick on-topic thank you. He doesn't want the kid ok?  probably the kid senses that.

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Amazing. Ive been out all day so havent responded but amazing the wild assumptions that are made and inevitably the pack dogs turn on each other. Of course the child has issues and if I didnt care or understand this I wouldnt bother asking. Smacking the child around and all the other colourful extremes are just not the case. Its not out of temper or frustration. One smack is used as a last resort. There is no jealousy ranting or screaming. The child is with us 24 / 7 and receiving more attention than any child would get at the expense of my own child. Let me also say out of all the impractical do gooder BS including a psychiatrist and antidepressants (he speaks and understands very little Thai or English) there were hardly any replies of any real advice apart from wild assumptions and adding 2+2 and getting 15. The problem is that bad that it is impossible for the mother to be away from the child for more than a minute and she has asked me to disipline him. It is just impossible to live like that for her and for me and if unaddressed will end up in us parting ways...which ultimately end up in no ones best interest...particularly the childs. And my interest in controlling the child is not so I can get 30 mins to have sex. This problem will manifest itself in different ways in the future. Why so many thais have jealousy and separation issues when they grow up and get partners. Has the world gone mad or am I really the only person here thinks a strategical smack now and then is necesary?

 

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What distractions have you tried? TV, toys etc. Socialisation with other children in the same age bracket.

The child is far too young to understand boundaries or disciplinary action. The choice is either to wait it out, or go.

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1 hour ago, BobBKK said:

You were rude I was not. Leaving that aside it DOES amaze me that people retire here and want to get involved with bringing up a Thai kid that's not there own ok? 

 

Now get your facts straight. He told us he did NOT want to be in a family of 2 kids right?  don't hijack the OP's thread by saying it's 'natural to you' stick on-topic thank you. He doesn't want the kid ok?  probably the kid senses that.

Have one thing clear for you, I have not hijacked any thread. Don´t even try that game.
I quoted you, that says it´s amazing that people will bring up a child that is not their own. Does it amaze you same much that to people with children get married and bring up the two children together when that happens in your home country too? It still seems natural to me, and I quoted your post. Get it! If you believe your post was out of topic, then go delete it, instead of accusing people that quote what you wrote.

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9 hours ago, Kenny202 said:

girl I have now is an absolute gem. Thoughtful, caring, submissive. 

 

Probably a virgin too when you met her....

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16 minutes ago, Kenny202 said:

Well Im the OP, I made the post and I say you hijacked it from the get go. Been all about u since your first reply. Foxtrot Oscar. Lets hear from others that may have some actual advice

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Wrong, It has been nothing about me. It´s been all about you. In between everything I wrote, I actually thought you might see the actual advices that I gave.

One thing still stands, though! If you call defending children from any kind of abuse, like for example smacking, for hijacking a post. Yeah then you are right, but there ain´t gonna be any length I will not go for standing between people that call that sort of behaviour as a part of raising and disciplin and the children.

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Idiot. Never get involved with Thai women

With kids there are Plenty who have never been knocked up. I myself had a vasectomy on my 30th birthday. The most liberating experience ever. I will not breed or be bred to anybody for any reason.

 

I don’t hate children, I just don’t want one of my own to pay for is that OK?

 

And yes they sleep with thekr kids I have refused sex with MILFs several times because I will not bang a lady with a small child sleeping in the same room!(Japanese). That would be wrong.

 

 

By the way as a cocksman who has bedded

hundreds I Can confirm pregnancy destroys women’s bodies 90 percent of the time.

 

 

 

 

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Posted (edited)
1 hour ago, Kenny202 said:

Has the world gone mad or am I really the only person here thinks a strategical smack now and then is necesary?

Does that question really need any answer?

 

2 hours ago, lionsincity said:

I would kick both of them out

A really grown up solution! Now you solved the problem directly. Do you use a bat when you want to stay with or marry a woman too?

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Posted (edited)
39 minutes ago, theguyfromanotherforum said:

Probably a virgin too when you met her....

Born again?

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