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Finding A Girlfriend In Cm

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Finding a girlfriend in England is not like it used to be. Now I'm past the age of fifty it seems like I don't stand a chance with any lady under the age of seventy :-(

So assume I move to CM. How available are the local ladies for relationships with old guys like me and what have been your experiences in finding loved ones. I'm not talking about bargirls or freelancers. I'd like to know how easy it is to meet educated girls from good families or at the very least a girl who is working in a position such as a hotel receptionist or a waitress in a restaurant.

Not having talked with any of the expats living in CM I'm wondering how many live with ladies they have brought over from their home country, how many found local ladies and how many live life single.

Thanks,

Mike

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So assume I move to CM. How available are the local ladies for relationships with old guys like me

Not particularly difficult at all. Just stay out of the bar circle, and try mixing in the various social groups and clubs that are around. Loads of local Thai ladies forums and web sites if that fails, with a lot of very nice ladies. I never have a problem, and I'm older than you :)

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Although you will carry the stigma of the farang, once settled in, it would be like anywhere else. If you start making Thai friends, you will soon get introductions.

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There is nothing easier than getting a girlfriend in Chiang Mai and she does not have to be some old crone either. The problem is getting someone who really cares for you and is not only there for your money.

I have decided to remain single as I feel that is to hard to resist all the women throwing themselves at you all the time and I don't see why one would get married if you know that you are going to fool around.

From what I have read on Thai Visa, most expats seem to be married to gorgeous white skinned beauties from prominent families with excellent educations and lots of their own money. However, I've never been as lucky as these guys, but I do meet plenty of eligible women with straight jobs and if you stick around a while, you will too. :)

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just visit the bar "Monkey" in CM. There are a lot of girls wanted farang. Also almost each massage girl would like to be your GF

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just visit the bar "Monkey" in CM. There are a lot of girls wanted farang. Also almost each massage girl would like to be your GF

:D Now there is food for thought :)

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Finding a girlfriend in England is not like it used to be. Now I'm past the age of fifty it seems like I don't stand a chance with any lady under the age of seventy :-(

So assume I move to CM. How available are the local ladies for relationships with old guys like me and what have been your experiences in finding loved ones. I'm not talking about bargirls or freelancers. I'd like to know how easy it is to meet educated girls from good families or at the very least a girl who is working in a position such as a hotel receptionist or a waitress in a restaurant.

Not having talked with any of the expats living in CM I'm wondering how many live with ladies they have brought over from their home country, how many found local ladies and how many live life single.

Thanks,

Mike

The problem in CM is not how to find a girlfriend, but how to avoid having a girlfriend.

Relationships out here are based on finance, the ladies want security, you can provide that.

Pretty much every girl you will meet out here is the sort of girl you say you don't want to meet. As a Thai hotel owner out here once said to me, there are many Thai girls from all over the country living in Chiang Mai, this place is more expensive to live than elsewhere but the wages are the same, ask yourself why the girls come to live here, there is only one answer ........ white men with money.

My 66 year old American friend has just become engaged to a 25 year old bank teller, he tells me she is an educated good girl, I tell him she clearly loves him for his athletic body and good looks!

But nothing wrong with those girls.

PS

The first night I was in CM I acquired a Thai gf age 40 (with her own house and business), earning 30kbht per month.

Three months later I changed to a 34 Thai gf (with her own house) earning 5kbht per month as a receptionist.

I have currently been asked to find boyfriends for a 41 year old antique exporter (own house and business), my gfs aunts (age 50) would also like white boyfriends, both have their own houses and businesses. Any number of girls in their 20s are available but they tend to have nothing, so would need total support from the boyfriend.

Incomes are very low out here, they want you to improve their lifestyles, their wages are so low that their employment can get in the way of your relationship.

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Finding a girlfriend in England is not like it used to be. Now I'm past the age of fifty it seems like I don't stand a chance with any lady under the age of seventy :-(

So assume I move to CM. How available are the local ladies for relationships with old guys like me and what have been your experiences in finding loved ones. I'm not talking about bargirls or freelancers. I'd like to know how easy it is to meet educated girls from good families or at the very least a girl who is working in a position such as a hotel receptionist or a waitress in a restaurant.

Not having talked with any of the expats living in CM I'm wondering how many live with ladies they have brought over from their home country, how many found local ladies and how many live life single.

Thanks,

Mike

I thank you will find that most expats do not live with a lady that they brought from home this is one reason they are in Thailand. It is not a question of how easy is it to meet "good Ladies" its how easy is it to get rid of them.

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Don't even live in Thailand, but I with throw in my 2 satang...

You will not find a good women looking in a bar...

If you spend much of your free time in the bars, all you will meet are current, former, or almost bar girls (those whose main occupation is milking a succesion of farrang boyfriends)... the success rate for long term relationships with girls from that side of life isn't great...

You won't meet good women, because they aren't in the bars... Also, the best method of meeting a good woman is going be by 'referral' from a friend of a friend, or an aunty, or simillar... if all your friends have BG girlfriends, they can only refer you to other BGs, and a good Thai woman isn't going to refer you if you are known to enjoy the company of paid professionals...

You will get many people who tell you that ALL Thai women just want to seperate you from your money... not true... I have many many mates who are very happy for a long time with Thai wives... over many years... almost all of the girls have never worked in 'the industry'... and almost all of the men don't indulge in it...

All the same, make sure that you protect yourself, because there are endless (and I do mean ENDLESS) stories of men who in the golden years of their life are left penniless by a merciless ex...

The Internet is a bit of a worry, because there are just as many girls there as in Loi Kroh, but at least if you meet a girl in Loi Kroh you know her background...

Cheers,

Daewoo

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The odds are that if an old git picks up a girl somewhere who is, 20, 30 or more years younger than him, than she`s in it for financial gain, no matter what her background or class.

In Thailand there are families here that have made seperating the Farang from his assets almost into and industry and they`re experts at it.

Please have a read some of the horror stories on ThaiVisa forums.

The good part about Thailand is that it is more affordable to love em and leave em than in the West.

I met my Thai wife in England and we have been married for 22 years. My wife and I are both in our 50s, we even share the same birthday. Being of the same age, our relationship is much more stable.

In Thailand if one keeps their head down and doesn`t get involved in something that is over their head, they`re stay here will be much more enjoyable and profitable.

So just have fun because it`s all down to common sense.

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Lots of good replies here. I have no trouble finding women and I'm almost 70. Not all are bar girls, but some of them are. You can have your pick of ladies over the age of 35 if you are clean, reasonably pleasant and a happy person. You don't have to be handsome, but of course that helps a bit. Of course you need money, but that is true anywhere you live. As someone already mentioned, there are single women working everywhere. All it takes is a slow approach and just being friendly. I've found available women in banks, selling fruit and veggies in markets, in cafes and restaurants, in bars and just hanging out near outdoor food stalls. Most Thais are approachable if you can speak a little Thai. And, if you just smile they are all pretty friendly. Of course the bars are the easy route, but the very pretty gals are mostly busy with customers and are totally money oriented. The less attractive ones are often very nice and almost all want to meet someone special. I know many who have settled down with a farang and made good wives.

If you see someone that catches your eye then just make conversation. Start slowly and come back on a regular basis. Ask about her husband and children and you'll quickly get the picture if she is available or not. If nothing else you will have made a good friend. Through friends you meet other friends, and from there you might meet someone of your dreams.

Like Ulysses, I'm a confirmed bachelor, and I quickly let the women know I'm not interested in a permanent relationship, but that doesn't mean we can't be friends. I have platonic lady friends and many that are just lovers. It works for me, but everyone has their own wants and needs.

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I volunteered to teach English at the local school and ended up married to the tuck shop lady...

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So assume I move to CM. How available are the local ladies for relationships with old guys like me

Not particularly difficult at all. Just stay out of the bar circle, and try mixing in the various social groups and clubs that are around. Loads of local Thai ladies forums and web sites if that fails, with a lot of very nice ladies. I never have a problem, and I'm older than you :)

"I'm older than you :D"

But then you're older than everyone aren't you :D

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I'd like to know how easy it is to meet educated girls from good families

It's called Facebook.

(And Hi5, TeeNee, etc, etc, etc. The educated ones are all on Facebook though, Hi5 is for sluttier girls, the ones with orange hair and blue contact lenses, staring too closely and at an angle into the web cam for their profile picture like some #&)@(* goldfish. Avoid those.)

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Hi5 is for sluttier girls, the ones with orange hair and blue contact lenses, staring too closely and at an angle into the web cam for their profile picture like some #&)@(* goldfish. Avoid those.)

:) What an apt description :D

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