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Revenge Or Forgiveness

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Revenge or forgiveness,

That is the question where i am struggling with for a few years.

What would you do???

You've been hurt corporal,physical and mentally,

never forget and takes you two years to just pick up your dailey live.

Legal system let you down.

There is a battle going on in you body between radical thinking and at the other side hart and emotion.

I will write down my story but need some more time.

Thanks,

NFS

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Forgiveness- For your own good not the other party's.

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Forgive me, but didn't you already give us the why me? thread?

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Forgive me, but didn't you already give us the why me? thread?

I forgive you, this has nothing to do with the other thread.

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They say revenge is a dish best served cold. Cold, calculating, emotionless. Ultimately, it hurts the revenger more than the revengee.

Forgiveness takes dealing with the emotions. It is more difficult, but much better for the long run.

Forgiveness can take years. My father was 70 years old before he forgave his father for what had been done to him as a kid; he then became a most mellow and loving guy for the rest of his life.

Another way of looking at it is, forgiveness is the best revenge :-)

Journaling a time line and your feelings can be helpful, but please don't let it drag you down. You might consider some brief behavioral counseling, which will help you take positive steps in dealing with these issues. I think there is a pinned topic of a list of counselors on the health forum.

Best of luck to you.

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When something or someone hurts you - you obviously think revenge is great. But in the long run (may take weeks or years) you soften up and usually forgive.

But, in the back of your mind, you still think about getting revenge for that hurt.

I did. But got no happiness or peace of mind out of it. It just got the ball rolling again, and I went through it again.

So, I would forgive and forget and move on to a better place in yourself. Even if you carry a black thought in your head, you can keep it in a memory box of life experiences not to be repeated.

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When something or someone hurts you - you obviously think revenge is great. But in the long run (may take weeks or years) you soften up and usually forgive.

But, in the back of your mind, you still think about getting revenge for that hurt.

I did. But got no happiness or peace of mind out of it. It just got the ball rolling again, and I went through it again.

So, I would forgive and forget and move on to a better place in yourself. Even if you carry a black thought in your head, you can keep it in a memory box of life experiences not to be repeated.

Your last paragraph sums it up well. Very wise. :)

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When something or someone hurts you - you obviously think revenge is great. But in the long run (may take weeks or years) you soften up and usually forgive.

But, in the back of your mind, you still think about getting revenge for that hurt.

I did. But got no happiness or peace of mind out of it. It just got the ball rolling again, and I went through it again.

So, I would forgive and forget and move on to a better place in yourself. Even if you carry a black thought in your head, you can keep it in a memory box of life experiences not to be repeated.

Your last paragraph sums it up well. Very wise. :)

Yep, the reality is, despite the whole plethora of emotions you have experienced, the parting of the ways is now agreed as best for both you and your wife. So, how the parting came about becomes irrelevant. Therefore you wipe the slate clean, there is actually nothing to seek revenge for, wish your wife good luck, close this chapter. You immediately open a new chapter which starts out with you and the wife separated, you seeking how you get to continue your relationship with your children under new circumstances, and also plan your own journey. Taking into account, your journey, if you so choose, will at times run parallel to that of your ex-wife and children. Good luck.

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When something or someone hurts you - you obviously think revenge is great. But in the long run (may take weeks or years) you soften up and usually forgive.

But, in the back of your mind, you still think about getting revenge for that hurt.

I did. But got no happiness or peace of mind out of it. It just got the ball rolling again, and I went through it again.

So, I would forgive and forget and move on to a better place in yourself. Even if you carry a black thought in your head, you can keep it in a memory box of life experiences not to be repeated.

Your last paragraph sums it up well. Very wise. :)

Yep, the reality is, despite the whole plethora of emotions you have experienced, the parting of the ways is now agreed as best for both you and your wife. So, how the parting came about becomes irrelevant. Therefore you wipe the slate clean, there is actually nothing to seek revenge for, wish your wife good luck, close this chapter. You immediately open a new chapter which starts out with you and the wife separated, you seeking how you get to continue your relationship with your children under new circumstances, and also plan your own journey. Taking into account, your journey, if you so choose, will at times run parallel to that of your ex-wife and children. Good luck.

473geo, i have to give some more details.

This story has nothing to do with my issues with GF.

I will post the whole story but i need some time.

I just give somke information so you that this has nothing to do with the situation i am in with my GF,

I had a robbery and kidnapping by drug addicts 7 years ago luckely i was the only one home at that time, replaceble damage was jewelry and other valuable goods, myself was little wounded.

Just to separate the 2 stories.

Thanks,

NFS

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Apologies for misunderstanding NFS - I guess the reality is the hunt for revenge does not affect the hunted - until/unless the revenge is applied - I always try to think that what goes around comes around, it is easier to let things go that way, maybe on the next robbery they will take a bullet.

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When something or someone hurts you - you obviously think revenge is great. But in the long run (may take weeks or years) you soften up and usually forgive.

But, in the back of your mind, you still think about getting revenge for that hurt.

I did. But got no happiness or peace of mind out of it. It just got the ball rolling again, and I went through it again.

So, I would forgive and forget and move on to a better place in yourself. Even if you carry a black thought in your head, you can keep it in a memory box of life experiences not to be repeated.

Your last paragraph sums it up well. Very wise. :)

Yep, the reality is, despite the whole plethora of emotions you have experienced, the parting of the ways is now agreed as best for both you and your wife. So, how the parting came about becomes irrelevant. Therefore you wipe the slate clean, there is actually nothing to seek revenge for, wish your wife good luck, close this chapter. You immediately open a new chapter which starts out with you and the wife separated, you seeking how you get to continue your relationship with your children under new circumstances, and also plan your own journey. Taking into account, your journey, if you so choose, will at times run parallel to that of your ex-wife and children. Good luck.

473geo, i have to give some more details.

This story has nothing to do with my issues with GF.

I will post the whole story but i need some time.

I just give somke information so you that this has nothing to do with the situation i am in with my GF,

I had a robbery and kidnapping by drug addicts 7 years ago luckely i was the only one home at that time, replaceble damage was jewelry and other valuable goods, myself was little wounded.

Just to separate the 2 stories.

Thanks,

NFS

You are still thinking about a robbery you had 7 years ago? Get a hobby mate, you should not dwell on the past.

Cheers, Rick

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Forgiveness liberates the soul. It removes fear. That is why it is such a powerful weapon". Nelson mandela

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I can relate although the circumstances are different for me. Please try and let it go, forgive for YOUR own sake. Sending you positive energy (and a quick prayer), don't like to see my fellow man suffering

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Hatred is, indeed, never appeased by hatred in this world. It is appeased only by loving-kindness. This is an ancient Law.

From the Dhammapada...

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