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Total Immersion – An Expats View after 10 years in Thailand

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3 hours ago, williamgeorgeallen said:

i moved here at 32 and have also been almost 10 years in pattaya. i found the hump happened at about year 6. considered leaving but got over it. think if you make it to 10 years then you will always consider it a great place. i have some concerns over things turning nasty with the reds when they realize they have no choice in being part of the government. i have to decide to pay for a condo i bought off plan or default on it to stay mobile. 

if you don't mind me asking, so what did you do (about the condo)?

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many posts are more informative than the OP (eg Chumpy, Thaidream).  and more brief. so, 10 for effort and 2 for clarity and providing fresh info.

When I started to read the OP, I was thinking that, based on the heading, I'd be reading  about experiences, which I could compare with mine and other friends' experiences - something we could enjoy - not to be lectured to.

I do agree with many of points which the OP which makes, so laboriously. But he is repeating what many of us know already. excepting this bit of loony advice: '' If you change your behavior and drive very aggressively, you will get angry much less. In fact it depends where I am or how heavy the traffic is but often I end up driving aggressively, but I still try and have manners when not many cars around. Most guys bitch about driving here and avoid it, but if you learn, experience and adapt its another thing ticked off. ''

The issue of making a good living organizing investors to open 'girlie' bars...well, each to his own. If you can live with the causal social side-effects. I wonder who he  relies on to bring in  fresh 'talent' for the investors' bars?.

The more farang who think (and act) like this,  the more I like my Thai friends and my small village.

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20 minutes ago, sendintheclowns said:

if you don't mind me asking, so what did you do (about the condo)?

i put down a 30% deposit. it is finished but if i buy it i will wait until it has all the paperwork. the owners in stage one moved in 2 years ago and still dont have their titles.

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I am sure you will many agreements - but the "Another issue is face" part of your post shows no foreigner can fully understand that bit.........you lost it there, so don't even try.............the rest of your post is "Okay" and good for a newbie that is thinking about living the Thai life.   I too have lived off & on in Thailand since 1972 ........... speak/understand a fair amount of Thai, all learned on the streets, in bars, resturaunts, parks, markets, taxi's etc etc etc...........never spent one minute in a Thai Class.

 

The loss of face??  " a Thai newspaper had an article about a girl that found some money stolen from her room after her friend left to go home.........she went to the friends house to confront her, but the friends sister answered the door.  She stabbed the sister with a knife, who, days later died.  When the court asked why she did it, she said to make her friend feel bad about stealing her money.  She was found guilty of simple assault with a knife, sentenced to 500 hrs community service cleaning the Government grounds, the friend was found guilty of theft and sentenced to 2 months in prison.    Logic??  Incomprehensible to us but in a Thai's eyes??, perfectly understandable.

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I enjoyed reading his story. 
I believe there is a lot that can be learned there if you intend to stay here a long time. 

I have 3 farang friends who speak fluent Thai.

I am often amazed at the doors that get opened to them that would be closed to me. 

I fully believe i am too old to learn to speak Thai now. 
I work for weeks on memorizing a new food sometimes, and then hear someone else (Thai) saying it, and can't believe it's the same word.    
Accents I guess. 
Anyway, I don't see why so many are coming down on the guy. 
He seems to be happy in his decision to do his best to act like  a Thai person.  

(my back wouldn't allow the sitting on the floor all the time. LOL)

 

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While your heart may be in the right place- you have not experienced total immersion. Total immersion is when you never see another Westerner; never speak English; speak and read Thai and watch only Thai TV; never read anything English; act and think like a Thai and never become irritated at things Westerners get irritated at. I

I  have tried it for years on and off  frankly the more I live in a solely Thai only World- I miss the Western World.  The more I speak and interact with Thais- the more I see the idiosyncrasies of Thai life and some of its hypocrisy. Thais are taught from birth that there are certain social patterns they must follow and thus they suppress their anger at some of these idiosyncrasies. Westerners complain to let off steam- it is part of our makeup.When a Thai is no longer able to suppress their anger and hostility- it comes out in a violent manner. Unfortunately , in Thai society today we see such things as road rage;  drug usage; and other anti social things that one did not see 50 years ago when I came to Thailand. While I accept and like the Thai lifestyle. I cannot and  do not want to be completely Thai because I would be missing so much of the rest of the World.

I have learned throughout the years to suppress those things in myself that Thais do not appreciate- I never raise my voice; never criticize  things about Thailand to a Thai; and generally maintain a Mai Pen Rai attitude. I do this because while I may be right at the time- I know that my insistence on it will cause issues in Thai society. However, knowing what I know about Thailand means I must read Western news reports; must converse with other non Thais and generally avoid total immersion due to the fact that no matter how Thai I may act; seem or feel- Thai people will always look at me as  a 'Farang', and never fully accept me as one of them. In addition, I want to stay well rounded and realize that people of other nationalities; ethnic backgrounds and intelligence can broaden my perspective on life.

Thai people are very insulated from reality; have a very insular manner about them and generally have a small World view. I say this not as a criticism but a realistic picture of Thailand. As education gets better; the economy improves; more foreign languages taught- Thai people will begin to understand there are other ways and other perspectives that can improve their lives and their country.

While the writer may think he understands Thailand and its people and thinks he is immersed in Thai society- he is not and if he wants to excel economically he will retain an interest in the outside World.

 

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I do  not dismiss the OPs presentation  but it is limited and he is not immersed and never will be. His occupation is limiting and will serve him little purpose in the ensuing years especially in Pattaya where those in power will never share their knowledge; connections; and business acumen with a foreigner. A Thai will smile and speak politely but will never allow you as a foreigner to ever enter his most inner circles. I say this not out of enmity but reality and experience. I have known Thais of all walks of life from laborers up to members of the Thai Prime Minister's cabinet . Frankly, sometimes the labourers show me the real Thainess that so many of us love. I have found very few Thai who have money and power to feel any real kinship with their countrymen or foreigners.

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1 hour ago, jayboy said:

 


It's a good point.My experience is that the educated Thai middle class is generally oblivious to foreigners that cannot be "placed".Foreigners who have professional jobs, who are parents at top league schools, who are members of RBSC,who have high status educational qualifications from world famous institutions, who have an obvious and good reason to be in Thailand...etc etc are all quite easily accommodated and recognised.

Foreigners who just pitch up and who have no obvious reason to be here including I suspect most retirees are generally ignored.I don't think there is any hostility- just indifference.Obviously these people mainly mix with lower middle class,working class and generally low status Thais ( e.g. reformed "entertainment industry" types) and they never really meet those in the well educated groups or upper social echelons.Of course they wouldn't do so in their own home countries so there's no real surprise here.

 

 

 

Well, Dear Leader, we ARE holier-than-thou today, aren't we?

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A none sense post has been removed, the OP posts news that is passed to him he did not write this piece

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40 minutes ago, bwpage3 said:

Every time some one mentions not using air con it is not because they are trying to live like a Thai, it's because they cannot afford it. Living in Pattaya exploiting lady bars? What kind of life is that? Just another clinger trying to hang on doing whatever they can to make 5 baht. Must have a lot of free time to write this diatribe. Lots of contridictions means the truth is not being told. Do you really need to sit on the floor and eat to fit in? Maybe with poor people.

How do you exploit a ladybar?

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How do you exploit a ladybar? tell her you will pay her tomorrow.

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If the OP stays in the bar business in Pattaya he is headed for unemployment. The Thai government does not like this type of business and they are doing everything possible to put them out of business. The Op might start looking for a new occupation  before it becomes critical. Pattaya is changing and Western bar workers are not in its future. Sorry to burst your bubble but simply telling it as I see it.

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