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2 hours ago, dotpoom said:

I gave up the drink before coming to Thailand. When I first came though I frequented various establishments to get a grip of the Pattaya scene. When a lady came over to me and planked herself down beside me I quickly made it clear to her I was not interested. The reason being that I did not want her wasting her time with me when she could be much better off spending her time finding a prospective punter.

    My point is....why spend time with a lady buying her drinks if you do not intend doing the business with her. Of course it could be for the stimulating conversation, hadn't thought of that?

That's right, don't forget the stimulating conversation: "What your name?", "Where you come from?", "How long stay Pattaya?" and lastly "I want go with you" - vocabulary exhausted!

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7 hours ago, Foxy52 said:

These gals are paid bugger all mind

Maybe its because they can sit on their asses and play around on their phones..........nothing to stop them going working on the farm for 300 baht a day :whistling:

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Your friend who told you he takes his own bottle into the bar sounds full of shit (unless he owns the bar, or he is paying in other ways)  Many people buy a large bottle of Sang Som, if its not finished at the end of the night it will normally be put back on the shelf waiting your return.

 

I personally can not stand girls who hang around for a drink, if she is interested and your are interested in her then buy her a drink the rest will come naturally (don't continue with the drinks all night, take out of the bar to another then you wont get roped in buying other working friends drink)  You pick the bar.

 

At the end of the day you don't sound too pissed, if you having a good time who cares enjoy yourself your not harming anyone else (the girls will just think all farang will buy them loads of drinks.  They know residents when they see them LOL. 

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1 minute ago, Pilotman said:

How is your Thai?  Can you carry on a long conversation in their language?  Often, they just want to practice their English and helping them is hardly a chore is it.  Leaving school at 12 and leaving home to work in a bar rather than on a farm, is hardly a good grounding for leaning other's languages,  so it does no harm to give them a bit of a break.

Seriously do people still think this!

 

More likely they see friends who returns home with lots of nice things and money in their pockets and thinks......... I can do that.

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5 hours ago, Chou Anou said:

If a woman sits with and spends time with you, you can always tip her directly before you leave.  She'll get all the money (not a "split with the bar"), and be fairly compensated for her time.  You won't be helping her meet whatever "lady drink quota" the bar might have set for her, but that's not your problem.

I did that for some time as well.  Eventually found out that some of the bar owners set a drink minimum per girl for the month.  Fail to meet minimum and they get money docked from the monthly salary.  Smart owner, sucks for the girl.  

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I think you have missed something pretty basic:

 

You are not the benefactor, you are the victim.

 

 

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5 hours ago, Adbro1 said:

So,what is the best way of approaching the 'lady drink' situation without offending anyone or looking like a cheapskate?

I was thinking perhaps i could make it clear in the bars that i would buy no more than 1 lady drink for each bar i visit(sometimes i'll spend the whole night in 1 bar so would be a fairly cheap night :smile: ) 

Buying just 1 lady drink in each bar i would be saving quite a lot of money compared to my last trip.

I never buy a girl working in a bar a drink unless I am going to take her back to the hotel with me for some R & R.

 

You are not obligated to buy any girls a drink, if you buy one girl a drink, you will soon be opening the flood gate to others, i.e. unless she is with you exclusively, however the others will try you.

 

If you don;t feel like taking the girl back and just want to shoot pool, or play some other games, i.e. be entertained in that way, sure buy her drinks, as she is entertaining you.

 

Always have a limit of what you are prepared to spend per night, and always check that piece of white paper going into the cup as they will add drinks to it, happens to me still after 10 years, and even at bars that they know me.

 

Welcome to Thailand, suggest you do some further researching and don;t be a soft C--k when it comes to these pretty petite looking females, they are Medusa's.

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2 minutes ago, chilli42 said:

I don't think you need worry what the girls think about you (e.g. cheap). The drink is the cost of their company.  The girls are in a volume game.  If you are not buying they need to move on to the next prospect.  They have a right to make a living after all.  If I see a girl that looks interesting I ask them to join me for a drink.  Never feel compelled to say yes.  It's mainly the unattractive ones gat do this and they are just trying ramp he intensity on the volume strategy ... a bit like the being the life insurance agents of the night entertainment world.  If I enjoy the company of a girl I have asked to join me, I buy more.  If not I politely ask them to move on.  On many occasions you will be solicited for a drink.   If I don't want company or don't see anyone I am keen on I just don't buy a drink ... and it's on to the next bar.  Don't feel compelled to buy a drink in a bar just to avoid looking cheap or feel shamed into buying a drink for a girl you are not keen on.  If you follow this plan you may not spend less that B3,000. You certainly will have a more fun time.  BTW, if a girl you are sitting with invites another girl (always her "sister") to join for drinks there is no issue with a polite "no".  Nobody will be put out.  Again, they have to make a living and this is just one more tactic to increase their chances of success.  Of course if the "sister" is smokin hot you should ask her to join and ask the original to fins greener pastures.

Or take them both back for some R & R

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Play pool for entertainment, some of those girls can hustle you on the pool table earning more than the "lady drinks" They can be sharks.

As for a certain pub off Patpong the ladies on the dart board could play against Bristow.....many an afternoon  spent there.

"Lady Drinks" Cheap in comarisson

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4 hours ago, grumbleweed said:

3000 baht bar bill?

I'd need therapy for the rest of my life

 

You need to get the tattoo from your forehead removed

You certainly have a cheap therapy threshold. Some people regularly have B3000 bar bills--have you ever been to any of the nicer bars or clubs around?

 

Now a B3k bill from a rat-warren girly bar may mean you had quite a few and bought several ladies drinks, but still not impossible to imagine.

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