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I think generally ladyboys do not try to trick people into going back to the room under the guise of being a real woman.

Rarely would an event line that end well.


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On 8/10/2017 at 7:23 PM, WinnieTheKhwai said:

For Huli and others there's probably a lot more I can say about the topic of 'bar etiquette' in general. 

 

Most prominently, keep in mind that bars are still Thailand and Thai culture and manners apply, in many ways even more so than in other places.  Things that gain you karma-brownie-points (to avoid the words 'respect' and 'appreciation') in general life in Thailand are very much the same in bars.

 

So let's hear it for "Thainess".. in no particular order:

 

* Generosity. This is most closely related to the lady drink topic, but keep in mind that there are other ways to be generous. Bar workers who know me also know that I will never ever say no to (partly) funding a food or snack purchase from some vendor.  50-80 Baht does not buy a ladydrink, but it buys a feckload of mystery-meatballs on sticks, that lots of staff can share. You've now demonstrated generosity beyond any doubt.  Even when not buying ladydrinks, you've permanently avoided the tightwad category.  Heck I even bring snacks, fruit or cookies to bars sometimes. Or small gifts and trinkets from Chiang Mai when going to Pattaya. Or, better than just about anything: stuff from Europe or the US after an overseas trip.  Girls often remember this for years, long after I completely forgot about it.

 

* Being considerate. a.k.a. 'mai pen rai'.  Being a bar girl / sex worker can be tough at times. Don't make it harder than it needs to be, also when they make mistakes, are very busy serving drinks, etc.  Don't be demanding.  They open the wrong kind of beer?  Fine, no prob. They open the wrong kind of beer (or make the wrong drink) for another customer who turns that into a big deal: fine, serve it to me.  A group of backpacker ladies break a glass and it turns into a major discussion on if they broke it or the waitress broke it…: (this last week): I nip it in the bud by asking how much a glass costs anyway (80 Baht) and ask the waitress to stop talking and put it on my bill.   Life’s too short, nobody wants to listen to that..  Plus not being demanding in other creative ways like I see so many guys do.. anyone can have an off-day, time of the month, argument with co-worker, whatever.

 

* Being polite, especially when speaking Thai.  You can never be too polite in Thailand, there’s only cred in using slangy terms if you get it spot on, which is unlikely.  Avoid the horrible bar-Tinglish.  Or when speaking English, you can speak English in such a way that almost nobody will understand you (people from the British isles especially suffer from that) or you can speak clearly, and simply, and almost everyone will understand.

 

* Making compliments and showing appreciation, about anything, no matter how small.  Find something to be nice about.  Avoid complaining, or even what many Europeans don’t call complaining but ‘observing’ or ‘asking’ but still with a critical slant on it that can be perceived as negative.  But all small talk is fine, about her kids, her parents, her life, her home town.. inevitably you learn a lot that way, I know I did.

 

* Being honest.  Admittedly this is not the first thing that comes to mind when you hear 'Thainess', but really nobody should ever have a reason to lie about anything in bars.  Don't hide you're married or in a relationship. Mostly because it doesn't matter.  Don't brag, it's not needed. Perhaps one of the best things about bars is that you can really be yourself; it's always good enough.

 

 

Yo Winnie

 

I swear this is one of your best posts ever, we ought to pin it. 

 

I think that the BG bars are underrated. More expats from CM should go and meet a BG. Its fun if you have the right attitude. And the girls will really appreciate you. Buy them 3 drinks and 100 baht tip, they make 250 baht, and you did your good deed for the day. Help the poor.

I always tell them they look great, their ear rings are beautiful, they look young, and still sexy etc. 

After reading your post I think a lot of men will be inclined to give the BG bars another go. If I go to a BG bar for the first time, and pick a BG right away out of the masses to drink with, I always have a good time. Its like shooting fish in a barrel, how can you lose? Its fun to sort out communication and then learn about a Thai person, and a woman besides. 

This thread has proven to be very popular. If members start discussing specific BG bars as being good, us men will want to go check them out. I think thats OK on TV.?

 

Winnie -HAPPY BIRTHDAY TO YOU Aug 13

 

you are so brave to put your birthday on your Profile-few take that "risk" haha

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1 hour ago, huli said:

 

No not last night, how was it? Can you give us a report?

Just went in there to watch the football .

Some of the bars were closed because of the Queens birthday , others were open and not selling alcohol and others were open selling alcohol , 7/11's were also selling alcohol .

    The musician guy was not there and there were 10 or so customers and five or so bargirls .

    Half the customers were backpacker felangs male and female playing pool.

A few bargirls came and said hello , I told them that I just wanted to watch the football

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1 hour ago, huli said:

Its fun to sort out communication and then learn about a Thai person, and a woman besides. 

This thread has proven to be very popular.

Typically , they will have a child back in the village , living with grandparents , who is 16 years younger than them , they will also have another child with a felang , living abroad .

   Their former Thai boyfriend is a bad man who drank too much and hit her and the felang b/f will be coming over at Christmas to visit her .

  She doesnt actually work in the bar as a bargirl, she just goes there some nights to visit her freinds

   If her phones rings , she may not answer, as its a wrong number

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9 hours ago, sanemax said:

Typically , they will have a child back in the village , living with grandparents , who is 16 years younger than them , they will also have another child with a felang , living abroad .

   Their former Thai boyfriend is a bad man who drank too much and hit her and the felang b/f will be coming over at Christmas to visit her .

  She doesnt actually work in the bar as a bargirl, she just goes there some nights to visit her freinds

   If her phones rings , she may not answer, as its a wrong number

Wow,we both know the same lady.Coincidence much?.:smile:

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16 hours ago, sanemax said:

Typically , they will have a child back in the village , living with grandparents , who is 16 years younger than them , they will also have another child with a felang , living abroad.

 

The former is really common; much like many other below-middle class Thai women who are separated from their first boyfriend/husband.  The latter (a kid abroad) not so much; a minority has even visited a Western country, never mind having a kid there.

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17 hours ago, sanemax said:

Typically , they will have a child back in the village , living with grandparents , who is 16 years younger than them , they will also have another child with a felang , living abroad .

This is really a disturbing text.

 

Please. Farang. Or maybe forang (short "o"). Not Felang. There is no "eh" sound. And the "l" instead of the "r" is a pronunciation mistake that doesn't need to be repeated.

 

Just pointing out the important things in life. Thank you.

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I do not think the girls in the bars "typically" have kid back in the province. Many do sure, but typically? Not that I have seen.


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4 hours ago, mogandave said:

I do not think the girls in the bars "typically" have kid back in the province. Many do sure, but typically? Not that I have seen.


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They may not have a kid back in the province, sometimes the kid lives with them.

Just a wild guess, but IMO many of the BGs that work in farang barbeers have kids. It's hard to hide stretch marks when wearing "sexy" clothes.

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They may not have a kid back in the province, sometimes the kid lives with them.
Just a wild guess, but IMO many of the BGs that work in farang barbeers have kids. It's hard to hide stretch marks when wearing "sexy" clothes.


I agree a lot of them do, but I believe more of them don't.

Stretch marks don't mean anything, but the vertical line below the belly-button is a dead giveaway.

Also, generally the cheaper the club, the higher the percentage of mothers working.

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1 hour ago, thaibeachlovers said:

They may not have a kid back in the province, sometimes the kid lives with them.

Just a wild guess, but IMO many of the BGs that work in farang barbeers have kids. It's hard to hide stretch marks when wearing "sexy" clothes.

LOL so that means a lot of the farang punters have had sprogs then. Seeing them come of the beach into the bars with no t shirt more stretch marks than a chinese road map. 

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23 minutes ago, mogandave said:

 


I agree a lot of them do, but I believe more of them don't.
 

 

I would have a guess and say that 75% of them have kids , 50 % of them have two kids and 25 % of them have grand kids .

   O.K, fair enough, not many have felangs kids living abroad , but quite a few have felang "boyfriends" back home working and sending them money regularly and plan to come over at Christmas and visit .

    Thats a bit more than a guess actually , as I know quite a lot of them

Quite a few have HIV as well .

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2 minutes ago, sanemax said:

I would have a guess and say that 75% of them have kids , 50 % of them have two kids and 25 % of them have grand kids .

   O.K, fair enough, not many have felangs kids living abroad , but quite a few have felang "boyfriends" back home working and sending them money regularly and plan to come over at Christmas and visit .

    Thats a bit more than a guess actually , as I know quite a lot of them

Quite a few have HIV as well .

A very sweeping guess work opinion there.

I agree most higher than 75% would have a sprog at home, which is why they are working there in the first and only place.

As for the other two sweeping guesses you make i would have to see conclusive proof as opposed to guess work.especialy the HIV statement.

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I would have a guess and say that 75% of them have kids , 50 % of them have two kids and 25 % of them have grand kids .
   O.K, fair enough, not many have felangs kids living abroad , but quite a few have felang "boyfriends" back home working and sending them money regularly and plan to come over at Christmas and visit .
    Thats a bit more than a guess actually , as I know quite a lot of them
Quite a few have HIV as well .

Are you talking about a particular bar in a particular resort that you know "quite a few of them" or are you claiming to know a lot all over the place to enable to come up with your maxpoll


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